How To Honor Your Parents If They Abused You According to the Bible!

How To Honor and Respect Parents!

Honor thy mother and father and provoke not

Sometimes it is hard to honor and respect parents when they have victimized you or didn’t show you love and acceptance and made you feel unworthy and unclean. Why do you think they did that? It is because their parents projected that into them, and then they dumped the demonic on them where they believed it for themselves. That is a lie, and that is the unloving spirit. The demonic comes down the family tree and keeps repeating itself until someone breaks the family tree curse.

How is a person supposed to Honor and Respect their parents?

How can I honor my parents if they are demonized with self-hatred and self-rejection and victimized me when I was a child and still do when I’m around them? You can honor them by thanking the Lord that they gave you life if you have nothing else to honor them. You have to see your parents as victims of the demonic that passed down from the family tree. Their parents were not able to love them, so they did not know how to love you, and you cannot expect them to love you when there is a demonic or unloving spirit in them. That means you have to separate the sin in them. They were victims and have been programmed by their parents to victimize you! When you see that they are victims, too, it makes it easier to forgive them and stop the torment.

What Paul Says to do!

That’s why Paul talks about casting down negative thoughts that are not of God in 2 Corinthians 10:3-6.

3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: 4(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) 5Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; 6And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled.

When you don’t cast it down as a lie, then you establish it as a way of life for yourself. You are going to filter the lie through everything that comes your way. If your parents reject you, you will feel rejected by everyone else. Everything they say will feel like rejection. Also, because of that unloving spirit, then a child, now an adult, will continue to go back to their parents over and over again, thinking something will change and trying to get acceptance through them. That won’t happen because of the demonic in them. People must accept that it won’t change until they remove the lie from their hearts and minds because they believe it, too! You can change it, though!

What can I do?

You must fall out of agreement and be prepared to avoid it. You don’t have to continue to hear the negative voices of your mother and father in your ears. If you do, it is an evil spirit that is reminding you of self-rejection, self-hatred, etc. How many are still listening to the voices of demonized parents who victimized you spiritually when they are not even around you – they might already be dead, but you still hear clearly what they said or did. There is no way any man, pastor, or preacher can take away those voices from your mind or memory. There is a way to be freed from the spirit that transferred into and tormented you through your family tree. That is the unloving spirit that comes to you to accuse you and make you feel rejection, self-hatred, etc. If you are going to get the work out the grace of God in you, you must realize you will never forget those voices, they are a big part of the memory, but the pain from presence of that evil spirit that is attacking you and accusing can be gone. You will have the memory but not the accusation or pain of the memory.

When you hear that voice, you will know to cast it down as Paul says in 2 Corinthians 10:3-6 and not let it affect you because you will know what your heavenly father thinks of you. You need to discern good and evil by what is said between your ears. If it is not love, then the devil is accusing you. Cast that thought down by not accepting it. Know who you are in Christ and meditate on what the word says about you. You can only feel complete with God. No man can cause you to feel complete. When the enemy comes to accuse you, and you know your identity, it will not affect you. That is why you need to know what the Lord says about you when the enemy comes to accuse you. You see when you believe the lie, then you are calling God a liar as well. You are none of those things you are accused of by the enemy or your parents. You are just a victim of your parents' demonic. 

That is why it hurt so bad because of their demonic and the demonic that passed down to you through them through the family tree. That is why the devil knew what he was doing to accuse you: he knows your family tree. There is no reason to go around in rejection or self-rejection because your parents rejected you. Your heavenly father is now your father once you become born again, and you are never rejected by him, even when you sin. Run to Him for your love. You have to come to the place where you don’t go to your parents for acceptance. That has to stop! Realize that you must go to the Father because He has already accepted and loves you even when you are imperfect. We cannot lose the love of the Father.

I know every time I have a terrible memory or a specific memory from my past or from my parents and have a ping or lousy feeling, I know I need to forgive that situation and then try to turn my thoughts to the Lord or try to think of something more positive about that person or parent. That reprograms your thinking or what the word says, renewing my mind. That is taking every thought captive. Then I fill my mind with what the Lord says about me if I heard negative words of the past. I remind the enemy what the Lord says about me. Again, the war is between our ears, and it’s a mighty war. In Ephesians 6:12

“12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

The beginning of Chapter 6 of Ephesians discusses honoring our parents and then goes into spiritual warfare. So, if we can honor our parents, if they were abusive to you, by honoring them that they gave you life. That does not mean you have to continue to go and be abused to give godly honor.

by: Traci Morin
Servant and Ordained Minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ
Touch of God Healing Ministries (a healing and deliverance ministry located in Dallas, Texas). 

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