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Sunday, April 07, 2024

Steps for Healing Deep Hurts Causing Anxiety

 Steps for Healing Deep Hurts Causing Anxiety

The Holy Spirit's Guide to Healing Deep Hurts and Overcoming Anxiety

Steps for Healing Deep Hurts Causing Anxiety


Are you struggling with anxiety due to deep hurts from the past? Do you feel trapped in emotional bondage, unable to find freedom? The good news is that the Holy Spirit is here to guide you step-by-step on a path towards healing and liberation. This article will explore the steps for overcoming past hurts and anxiety, using God's Way scriptures as our foundation for transformation.

Many Times, People Suffer from Anxiety:

Many times, people suffer from anxiety as a result of deep hurts from the past. Whether it's childhood trauma, betrayal, rejection, or any other form of emotional wound, these experiences can leave lasting scars that affect our mental and emotional well-being. The first step towards healing is acknowledging the pain and seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit.

Step 1: Acknowledge the Hurt:

The first step in healing deep hurts is to acknowledge the pain that you are feeling. It's essential to confront the emotions buried deep within you, allowing yourself to grieve and process the pain. The Holy Spirit will give you the strength and comfort to face your past hurts with courage and resilience.

Step 2: Surrender to God's Will:

Once you have acknowledged the hurt, the next step is to surrender to God's will. Trust in the Holy Spirit to lead you towards healing and liberation. Let go of the need to control the outcome and allow God to work His miracles in your life. Remember, God's timing is perfect, and His plans are always for your good.

Step 3: Embrace Forgiveness:

One of the most powerful tools for healing deep hurts is forgiveness. You release the emotional burden of forgiving those who have hurt you. The Holy Spirit will guide you towards forgiveness and help you overcome resentment and bitterness. Remember, forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

Step 4: Renew Your Mind:

Healing from past hurts and overcoming anxiety requires a renewal of the mind. Fill your thoughts with God's truth and promises from the scriptures. Allow the Holy Spirit to transform your thinking and replace negative beliefs with God's love and grace. By renewing your mind, you will experience inner peace and freedom.

Step 5: Walk in Freedom:

As you follow the Holy Spirit's guidance and take each step towards healing, you will eventually walk in freedom from emotional bondage. Trust in God's plan for your life and know His love is more significant than any hurt or anxiety you may face. The Holy Spirit will lead you on a path that will bring healing, restoration, and a renewed sense of purpose.


In conclusion, overcoming deep hurts and anxiety is a journey that requires faith, courage, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. By following the steps outlined in this article and seeking God's way scriptures, you can find healing and freedom from the emotional bondages of the past. Remember, you are not alone on this journey. The Holy Spirit is with you every step of the way, leading you towards a life of joy, peace, and wholeness. Trust in God's promises, and watch as He transforms your pain into a testimony of His grace and love.Want a Free ebook to help you with anxiety? 

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Thursday, March 07, 2024

Wired for Healing: The Impact of Trauma on the Brain

Wired for Healing: The Impact of Trauma on the Brain

How Trauma Affects the Brain

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Learn How Trauma and Anxiety Affect the Brain?

As human beings, we all experience moments of trauma and anxiety throughout our lives. These can be caused by a variety of factors, such as losing a loved one, going through a difficult breakup, or experiencing a traumatic event. But have you ever wondered how these experiences actually affect our brains? Let's dive into the fascinating world of neurobiology and explore the impact of trauma and anxiety on the brain.

Understanding the Brain's Response to Trauma and Anxiety

When we experience trauma or intense anxiety, our brains go into what is commonly known as "fight or flight" mode. This primal response is designed to protect us from danger by releasing stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. These hormones prepare our bodies to either combat the threat head-on or flee to safety.
However, when this response is triggered repeatedly or for prolonged periods of time, it can have detrimental effects on our brains. Chronic stress can lead to changes in the structure and function of the brain, particularly in areas responsible for memory, emotions, and decision-making.

The Impact of Trauma on Brain Function

Trauma, whether physical or emotional, can have lasting effects on the brain. Studies have shown that individuals who have experienced trauma may have smaller hippocampal volumes, which can affect their ability to regulate emotions and form new memories.
Additionally, trauma can lead to an overactive amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for processing emotions. This can result in heightened fear responses and an increased risk of developing anxiety disorders.

How Anxiety Alters Brain Chemistry

Anxiety, on the other hand, can disrupt the delicate balance of neurotransmitters in the brain. Imbalances in neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine can lead to symptoms such as restlessness, irritability, and difficulty concentrating.
Chronic anxiety has also been linked to changes in the structure of the brain, particularly in the prefrontal cortex. This area of the brain is responsible for executive functions such as decision-making and impulse control. When the prefrontal cortex is compromised, individuals may struggle to regulate their emotions and behavior.

Reversing the Effects of Trauma and Anxiety on the Brain

While the effects of trauma and anxiety on the brain may seem daunting, there are ways to mitigate their impact. Therapy, mindfulness practices, and relaxation techniques have been shown to help individuals rewire their brains and foster resilience.
Engaging in regular exercise, getting an adequate amount of sleep, and maintaining a healthy diet can also support brain health and promote emotional well-being. By caring for our physical and mental health, we can build a strong foundation for healing and growth.


In conclusion, trauma and anxiety can have profound effects on the brain, disrupting its structure and function. By understanding how these experiences impact our brains, we can take proactive steps to support our mental health and well-being. Remember, it is never too late to seek help and begin the journey toward healing. Take care of your brain, and it will take care of you.

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Sunday, February 25, 2024

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It is a private group for women only. Why is that? Well, I want women to feel free to share real issues so that they can receive prayer from others or from me. Some women have suffered from devastating events in their lives that are very personal, real, and painful that men may not understand. 

Plus, you don't walk alone. My group is pretty new so not too many members as of yet. This is a great time to engage. 

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Saturday, January 27, 2024

How to Overcome Fear in Life For Your Health

How to Overcome Fear in Life for Your Health

How to Overcome Fear Biblically?

How To fight Fears

How to Fight Fear, Stress, and Worry!

How to Remove Fear from mind and heart?

Worry and fear do not come from God but exhaust the power God gives us to face everyday problems and to carry out responsibilities. These are sinful wastes.  Fear is not God’s character but comes from the kingdom of darkness. There are 365 scriptures on fear. Fear is the opposite of faith. Scriptures that will helpyou remove fear from mind and heart.

Fret not He loves you (John 13:1)

Faint note He holds you (Psalm 139:10)

Fear not He keeps you (Psalm 121:5)

There is biblical and scientific evidence that the diseases of today are rooted in sin.  Why is it not trusting God? 1 John 4:18 says perfect love casts out fear.

Fear is the opposite of faith, and fear can manifest in worry, anxiety, stress, panic attacks, OCD, etc.  Continual fear produces dis-ease such as:

Heart disease, skin rashes, anxiety attacks, feeling overwhelmed, heart palpitations, stomach issues such as gurt, back pain, compromised immune system, anxiety and stress, colds,  etc.

Again, fear and worry are sin issues. Fear is a barrier to the promises of God. The enemy knows this and continues to get us to worry through fiery darts he cast in our thinking. The scientific community understands how our emotions affect our bodies; fear is the biggest issue. 

The limbic system is where our protective emotions, including fear, originate. The process of creating fear occurs unconsciously in the brain. Then, it stimulates the entire central nervous system, releasing different chemicals – depending on the thought, good or harmful chemicals are released. Fear releases cortisol. An overabundance of Cortisol destroys the adrenal glands, causing fatigue and exhaustion, even if a person gets eight hours of sleep.

Part of your brain controls the physical response to fear. It sends a signal directly to the amygdala, which stimulates the hypothalamus to produce a corticotropin-releasing hormone (CRH) that triggers the pituitary gland’s discharge of adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH), which enables the adrenal gland to secrete cortisol.  Again, Cortisol is a death hormone.

Cortisol in the bloodstream causes an increase in glucose production, providing the necessary fuel for the brain and muscles to deal with stress.

Cortisol is involved in several body functions, including:
  • Proper glucose metabolism
  • Regulation of blood pressure
  • Insulin release for blood sugar maintenance
  • Immune function
  • Inflammatory response

Fear is scientifically proven to be a cause of dis-ease. ScienceDaily (Mar. 26, 2008) states intense fear can make our blood clot and increase the risk of thrombosis or heart attack. Anxiety patients have a statistically higher risk of dying from heart disease by a factor of 3 or 4.

The Bible says fear results in heart problems: Men’s hearts fail for fear. Luke 21:26.

There are Healthy and Unhealthy Fears

Unhealthy fear is not of God but is projected from the kingdom of darkness. Fear and faith are opposites. We cannot run in a spirit of faith and a spirit of fear at the same time. We should not fear because God is with us. God said He will never leave or forsake us (Deu 31:6).

How do you Fight Fears?

When you fear something, cast your cares on the Lord because he cares 1 Peter 5:7. He also says not to worry about tomorrow and that the birds, flowers, etc., do not worry, so why should we worry?  You have to renew your means through the word of God, which is renewing the mind.  The more you counteract the fiery darts from Satan and use the Word of God, you will overcome your fears and every day worries.

Healthy fear helps us avoid life-threatening or dangerous situations that are God-given. Fear is the beginning of wisdom (Ps. 111:10).

My favorite scripture is “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” (1 John 4:18)

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (2 Tim 1:7)

“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ” (2 Cor 10:5)

“That thou mayest love the LORD thy God, and that thou mayest obey his voice, and that thou mayest cleave unto him: for he is thy life, and the length of thy days” (Deut 30:20a)

How to Fight Fears Quickly: Quench Out Fiery Darts From the Kingdom of Darkness

"Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked." (Ephesians 6:16).

How to Fight Fears: Praise God During Times of Stress

Instead of fretting, learn to praise the Lord in all situations and be content in all things, realizing God is for you and not against you and is working out your situation.  Faith is an active Word of God, believing in what you cannot see.  It is confidence in God and not yourself that will make everything turn out okay.

Everyone is looking for wholeness in their health, and these articles help those suffering from sickness and disease find answers and recover from the enemy's snares.

Sometimes, we need help. I do offer a 12-week program to help people overcome stress and fear that contributes to anxiety and also social anxiety. If you are interested, visit my website. I also offer a free 45-minute strategy call to find the areas of anxiety in your thoughts to reverse them. 

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Tuesday, December 12, 2023

Why We Bearing Others Burdens?

False Responsibility for Others

Learn the Characteristics of a burden bearer

Why We Bearing Others Burdens?

What exactly is false burden-bearing? The Characteristic of a False burden-bearer is false responsibility for others. It is when you cannot release a person or persons to the Lord and will try to make things happen for them. You feel responsible for them and will even be their Holy Spirit.

The scripture tells us to bear our brother's burden; it means to join with them and not become a pack mule. In Galatians 6:1-5 it says:

"1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such a one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. 2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. 3 For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself. 4 But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. 5 For every man shall bear his own burden."

You do want to come alongside them! We are to support them during their trials. You are not there to solve their solutions. You want to avoid becoming consumed with their thoughts over the situation and person (children, parents, or someone they care about).

False Burden Bearing is rooted in rejection! The enemy is tricky and will use your feelings of rejection to try to get you to help others so that you will feel accepted. It is meeting a need in you to help others.

Why does Satan use False Burden Bearing? Satan’s job is to rob the person of their peace and get their eyes on the situation and off of Christ. It is to overburden them. It is to get that person to get involved and become consumed. It has a plan to destroy one in spirit, body, and soul. It brings torment to man, as no other spirit can accomplish.

How to Recognize False Responsibilities

How do you know how to recognize False Burden Bearing? A person will say that they do pray for them. Check to see if your mind is thinking about that person and event throughout the day and if you are trying to devise solutions for them. If you are, then you are False Burden Bearing!

Why is False Burden Bearing Bad? When we falsely burden a person over an event, the Lord cannot come for that person because the person with the false burden is consumed in their life and is blocking God’s hand. It is a no-win situation. Satan wants to rob everyone’s peace. It also causes the other person to become codependent on the person with the false burden.

What is it really? The Word says in 1 Peter 5:7 to cast our cares to Him because he cares. If you continually think about and consume a person's situation, it is a lack of trust in the Lord. We need to be doers of the Word by applying God's word. We can pray for friends and family but then release them to the Lord. Know the Lord is going to take care of them. Put them on the altar and leave them there! If you pick them up again, give them back to the Lord. Learn to trust the Lord in all situations!

Some of the diseases coming out of False Burden Bearing:

  • Hyperthyroidism
  • Irritable bowel syndrome
  • Crohn's disease
  • Kyphosis
  • Back Pain
  • Scoliosis

False burden-bearing!

False burden-bearing is under the unloving spirit.  When we become someone's Holy Spirit, feel responsible for them, and don't take care of ourselves.

It will consume your thoughts about that person (their situation or need).  A person cannot release them to the Lord and will try to make things happen to them because of False Burden Bearing.

We can pray and release.  When they cannot get off their minds, false burden-bearing goes on.  Then, it has not been released to the Lord.  We should be able to pray and release them to the Lord, knowing he cares for them.  Then, do the things we need to do with peace.  When we are false burden-bearing, the Lord cannot come in because the false burden-bearing thing blocks God's moving in their lives.  Plus, it steals your peace.  It is a very subtle way that the enemy uses on his children.

That is one area I have to watch in my life.  I used to be such a big, false, burden-bearing person.  When I get into that thinking, and it has consumed me, and I cannot stop thinking about it, then I know I've gone into sin over it and have to cast it out of me.  Then, I'm able to release it much better.  If I catch myself doing it and I can give it to the Lord with faith, then I don't have to cast it out.  I've come out of agreement with it.  It has not consumed me yet.  The enemy wants to get our thoughts off Christ and be burdened with things. Also, to steal our peace and be burdened over the situation or event.

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Enemy comes as an angel of light.  Many people don't see the work of the enemy in good deeds.

There are positive emotions that are against God that are right out of hell.  PPD.  Competition, etc.

FBB - take people as assignments.  They take them as successes or failures and blame themselves for not working hard enough, etc.

  • I'm not responsible for a person's disease -  I'm not the devil
  • I'm not responsible for a person's healing because I'm not God.
  • It makes me a servant.  I can only do for a person as they allow me to do.

If she feels responsible for them - she has a sympathetic nervous system.  Entered into a type of fear and self-rejection, feels personally responsible.


Guilt and fear issues.

The person becomes a god to others to help others - caretakers.  I can care for a person but not live their life for them.

He that receives the message is not greater than the one that gives it.

Don't let anyone drag you down to make you responsible for your sickness.

Philippians 25:30 he long after you all ... heaviness ... sick ...

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Monday, December 11, 2023

Fear of Man in the Bible*

A Spirit Fear of Man in the Bible

Five Steps to Overcoming Fear of Man

You can break free from fear of man

Solomon tells us the “fear of man will prove to be a snare” (Proverbs 29:25). Just as an animal caught in a trap can't perform its God-given function when you or I give in to the fear of man, we can't do what God is calling us to do.

'Fear of Man' (simply) describes caring about what a man (male or female) will do to you, what the person thinks about you, how you appear to others, and whether your actions or lack of actions will please others. The torment never ends. That's one way you can recognize it. (Is there any torment in your thoughts toward that person, yourself, or God?)

Fear of man causes people to please and try to live up to their expectations. This can cause anxiety attacks. 

You have to understand how the accuser of Rev.12:10 operates. We are born into a world of accusation and are so accustomed to it that we often think it's our own thoughts or even the thoughts of God. You also have to deal with victimization on many levels-generationally, yourself, and addiction (because sometimes it's such a part of our lives, we wouldn't know what to do if we were not being victimized). Rejection is also a big issue. Also, I agreed with the spirit of 'fear of evil in man.'

The best way to come out of agreement with the spirit of 'fear of man' is to agree with God's word. Here are some scriptures to start meditating on. Continue to search the scriptures for yourself and let them build your faith in God and His word.

Fear of Man Scripture

Mat 10:28 And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.
Mat 10:29 Are not two sparrows sold for a farthing? and one of them shall not fall on the ground without your Father.
Mat 10:30 But the very hairs of your head are all numbered.
Mat 10:31 Fear ye not therefore, ye are of more value than many sparrows.

Pro 1:33 But whoso hearkeneth unto me shall dwell safely, and shall be quiet from fear of evil.

1 Jo 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
Jesus was and is the example of this for us.

Psa 33:18 Behold, the eye of the LORD is upon them that fear him, upon them that hope in his mercy;
Psa 33:19 To deliver their soul from death, and to keep them alive in famine.
Psa 33:20 Our soul waiteth for the LORD: he is our help and our shield.
Psa 33:21 For our heart shall rejoice in him, because we have trusted in his holy name.
Psa 33:22 Let thy mercy, O LORD, be upon us, according as we hope in thee.

Psa 60:11 Give us help from trouble: for vain is the help of man.
Psa 60:12 Through God we shall do valiantly: for he it is that shall tread down our enemies.

We now know who our enemies are. Eph 6:12 "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places."

So, as we continue to do the walkout, the 5 steps to overcome the fear of man, 'the fear of man' will be recognized and defeated.

The Five Steps to Overcoming Fear of Man:

1. Recognize the negative thought of fear of man
2. Repent and renounce to come out of agreement with the fear of man
3. Remove it by casting it down - 2 Cor. 10:5 the thought of fear of man
4. Stop Replay of the fear of man
5. Reframe your thoughts with God's truth

Sunday, December 10, 2023

Doubt is the opposite of Faith

Danger of Doubt and Unbelief Causing Anxiety

the opposite of faith is not doubt - the opposite of faith is fear

Doubt is the opposite of faith

The opposite of unbelief is faith. Faith is standing and believing in the things you cannot see. It is standing on the Word of God to build your faith. Unbelief is not able to believe in the things not seen. That means you cannot trust God. Is it doubt or fear? Learn that the opposite of faith is fear first then doubt.

Hebrews 3

7. Wherefore (as the Holy Ghost saith, To day if ye will hear his voice,

8. Harden not your hearts, as in the provocation, in the day of temptation in the wilderness:

9. When your fathers tempted me, proved me, and saw my works forty years.

10. Wherefore I was grieved with that generation, and said, They do alway err in their heart; and they have not known my ways.

11. So I sware in my wrath, They shall not enter into my rest.)

Simply put, the author says that it is the Holy Ghost speaking by

Psalms 95:7-11 7. For he is our God; and we are the people of his pasture, and the sheep of his hand. To day if ye will hear his voice,

8. Harden not your heart, as in the provocation, and as in the day of temptation in the wilderness:

9. When your fathers tempted me, proved me, and saw my work.

10. Forty years long was I grieved with this generation, and said, It is a people that do err in their heart, and they have not known my ways:

11. Unto whom I sware in my wrath that they should not enter into my rest.

The verses contain words of warning with a lot of urgency about them. We are called upon to give immediate attention to what is being said. We are also urged to be sensitive to the voice of the Spirit. Mainly, we are not to harden our hearts.

We are reminded of the attitude of the Israelites from the time they left Egypt until their entrance into Canaan. For 40 years, they showed a rebellious attitude, and thereby, they tested the patience of God.

Finally, God responded to their rebelliousness in holy anger. This is always God's response when we deliberately disobey His revealed will. Thus, those guilty of rebellion were excluded from the land of Canaan; they died in the wilderness. They missed the blessing of the Promised Land.

Hebrews 3

12. Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief in departing from the living God.

13. But exhort(verb 1. transitive verb urge to do something: to urge somebody strongly and earnestly to do something 2. intransitive verb give earnest advice: to give somebody urgent or earnest advice) one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.

The great danger we face is developing an unbelieving heart. Faith is the center of all Christian endeavors. In fact, the writer of Hebrews later said, "But without faith, it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him. Hebrews 11:6".

The result of a sinful and unbelieving heart is apostasy(noun, renunciation of faith: the renunciation of a religious or political belief or allegiance). It leads to an attitude that refuses to cleave to, trust in, or rely upon the Lord. The ultimate outcome is a denial of faith and a forfeiture of the blessings and benefits of knowing God.

We must unite, building one another up in the Lord to all be victorious.

Sin can deceive through riches.

Matthew 13:22. He also that received seed among the thorns is he that heareth the word; and the care of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, choke the word, and he becometh unfruitful.


Ephesians 4:22. That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;


Colossians 2:8. Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.


2 Thessalonians 2:10. And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved.

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Types of Fear - three steps to combat fear

What is a spirit of Fear Verses

Fear vs. Faith

Three steps to combat fear to return to faith in God. 

combat fear

There are over 4000 different types of fear, so it comes at us in many different forms. The most fearful being in creation is a Fallen Archangel, Satan, the opposite of faith. Satan knows his time is short. Faith and fear cannot coexist. They both project into the future. Faith projects good outcomes, and fear projects terrible things to happen. If you project fear, a person will become fearful daily. Fear is doubt and unbelief. So fear is the absence of faith. 

Ezek 28:19
19 All they that know thee among the people shall be astonished at thee: thou shalt be a terror, and never shalt thou be any more.

Five common fears manifest as the following:

Fear and faith bible verses
Worry: The English word comes from the Anglo-Saxon root, meaning to choke or strangle. It is the suffocating feeling of unease that we experience when we ponder a real problem with no apparent answer. Worry results in a person who looks at life with no hope in his thinking process. When he looks at a disturbing situation, he believes he is alone in his world and is responsible for solving the problem out of the resources of his wisdom. Wrong, there is always God in the equation.

Luke 18:27 "And he said, The things which are impossible with men are possible with God."

Anxiety: In Latin, it can mean to suffocate, press tightly, or be strange. The English word comes from the Latin anxius, which describes an inner turmoil, the troubling of the mind about an uncertain event. Fear and worry are directed toward a real and identifiable object or an object that appears natural. Anxiety produces all the same feelings, but there is no real and identifiable object; it is possible to be anxious and not to know why. It describes a constant tension over something that may or may not happen in the future.

Phil 4:4-8
4 Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice.
5 Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.
6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Distress - bad stress: The Hebrew word means to cause misery, sorrow, suffering, to exhaust or weaken with strain. It describes a narrow, constricted canyon, which describes overcrowding, being pressed or crushed: mental and spiritual claustrophobia.

Rom 8:35-39
35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
36 As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.
37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Panic: The word derives from the demon god of Creek mythology, Pan, who was believed to suddenly fill people with terror. It unleashes fear and anxiety in the overwhelming flood of terror. It produces immobility of the mind, terror in the emotions, sweaty palms, palpitating heart, ringing ears, dizziness, nausea, the feeling that we are on the verge of sanity, hot flashes, chills, choking and intense loneliness.

1 Pet 3:14-15
14 But and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled;
15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:

Timidity: From the Latin, time, to fear. This is an attribute of a person who is very easily frightened and has no self-confidence. It is the constant tendency to be afraid of everything and everyone. Here, the enemy is stealing your identity in the new birth. You have a hard time believing the truth of who God saw from the foundation of the world.

The Spirit of Fear is used to get our eyes off the promises of God, stuck looking at our situation that robs our faith.

Three steps to overcome a Spirit of Fear:

1. Recognize the lie or negative thought
2. Cast it down - disagree and throw it into the trash - 2 Cor. 10:5
3. Reframe your thoughts with God's truth and promises that combat fear and create faith to believe again. 

Finding Your True Identity: Navigating the Influence of God and Man

Do you Allow Others to Define Who You Are?

Find your true identity

Have you ever found yourself allowing others, like family members, to define your identity? Many of us have experienced rejection at some point in our lives. Rejection can be seen as a projection of lies from others that we unfortunately perceive as truth. The spirit of rejection can lead us to believe things about ourselves that are simply not true. But, wouldn't you agree that rejection is the opposite of what God defines us to be?
Jesus gave his life not only for us to have everlasting life and a relationship with Him but also to give us our true identity in Him. His blood has the power to wash away the lies that we have been believing about ourselves, if only we allow Him to do so.

Rejection: A False Identity

Rejection can plant seeds of doubt in our minds and hearts, causing us to question our worth and value. When someone we care about rejects us or criticizes us, it can feel like a direct attack on who we are as individuals. This can lead to feelings of unworthiness, inadequacy, and shame. However, it is important to remember that rejection from others does not define our identity.
Our true identity is found in Christ, who sees us as beloved children, created in His image and uniquely designed for a purpose. When we allow the opinions of others to shape our identity, we are giving away our power and authority to something outside of ourselves. By focusing on God's truth about who we are, we can begin to break free from the bondage of rejection and walk confidently in our true identity.

Embracing Our Identity in Christ

When we choose to accept the identity that Christ has given us, we are free to live in the fullness of who we are meant to be. We no longer have to conform to the standards and expectations of others, but can instead walk in the truth of God's love and acceptance. By embracing our identity in Christ, we can experience freedom from the lies of rejection and step into the fullness of our calling and purpose.
So, next time you find yourself tempted to allow others to define who you are, remember that your true identity is found in Christ alone. Don't let rejection hold you back from living the abundant life that God has planned for you. Stand firm in the truth of who you are in Him, and allow His love to shape and define your identity.

Coach Teresa Morin
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Friday, December 08, 2023

Forgiving someone who hurt you

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Do you go around feeling hurt and rejected? Do you struggle with anger and unforgiveness? How to handle hurt from someone in a relationship.

Does it seem like someone else has said or done something that hurts your feelings every time you turn around? Are you ready to call or email someone and tell them who broke you? Do you keep a list of rebukes you plan to share with that person as soon as you get that prime opportunity? When you lay down to try and sleep, are the events that hurt your feelings repeated in your mind? Is there someone you cannot get out of your head? Do you suddenly become angry when you see or think of a specific person?

If so, you’re not alone. I have struggled with that feeling. I know how that feels. There have been nights when I have tossed and turned, unable to sleep because I was so angry and bitter at what someone did or said. It’s miserable. It’s hard. It’s exhausting. It does damage to the soul, mind, and body. It seems so unfair as it goes on and on.

I recall going for long stretches where I would wait until someone made something right with me again. I’d hold back being friendly and sometimes refuse to speak with them. What a mess that is. I can’t recall many times when someone came back to me and apologized to make it right. It rarely happens. I'm in big trouble if my well-being hinges on someone apologizing and making something right again. I thank God that this is not the case. There is hope for all of us who suffer this way.

It was the strangest thing. A few years ago, I was all bent out of shape worrying over several personal situations when my urge to feel vindicated suddenly drove me to read God’s Word. I wanted to take God’s Word and find passages that proved my right and someone else's wrong. Sad, isn’t it? Though sad as my intentions were, I’m glad I read God’s Word. God knew me and knew how to use that situation to teach me what the cure for feeling hurt really is. Please pay attention to whether what I went through sounds familiar to you. Here is what I learned.

Love Soothes Hurt Feelings

"And above all things have fervent love to yourselves, for love will cover many sins. Be hospitable to one another, without grudging; each one as he received a gift, ministering it to yourselves as good stewards of the manifold grace of God." (1st Peter 4:8-10 MKJV)

"And most of all be warm in your love for one another; because in love there is forgiveness for sins without number. Keep open house for all with a glad heart; distribute among one another whatever has been given to you, like true servants of the unmeasured grace of God." (1st Peter 4:8-10 Bible In Basic English).

"If we have sown spiritual seed among you, is it too much if we reap material benefits from you? If others enjoy this right over you, don't we have a stronger claim? But we did not use this right. On the contrary, we put up with everything in order not to put an obstacle in the way of the gospel of Christ." (1st Corinthians 9:11-12 ISV)

I have yet to meet a person who did not ever sin or whom I did not disagree with on something. If I have a relationship with any person, it’s practically guaranteed that they will eventually do or say something to which I could take offense. It happens. It will always happen. Realistically, we should expect it to happen and be prepared to deal with it in a way that will heal and cure us of those offended feelings. 

God’s Word tells us to love one another, for love will cover a multitude of sins/offenses. If we do our part and are willing to put up with them, whatever they do or say to us will be covered over by OUR love for those who hurt our feelings.

How to forgive someone who hurt you in a relationship

" False balances are hateful to Jehovah; but a just weight is His delight. Pride comes, then shame comes; but with the lowly is wisdom."  (Proverbs 11:1-2 MKJV)

"He who handles a matter wisely shall find good, and whoever trusts in Jehovah, happy is he." (Proverbs 16:20 MKJV)

"Before shattering, the heart of man is proud, and before honor is humility." (Proverbs 18:12 MKJV)

"Likewise, younger ones, be subject to older ones, and all being subject to one another. Put on humility. For God resists proud ones, but He gives grace to the humble. Therefore be humbled under the mighty hand of God, so that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your anxiety onto Him, for He cares for you. Be sensible and vigilant, because your adversary the Devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking someone he may devour; whom firmly resist in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions in the world are being completed in your brotherhood." (1st Peter 5:5-9 MKJV)

According to Proverbs 18:12, broken hearts are caused by pride. Not by the pride of the person who hurt us but rather by our personal pride. So, if you’re complaining that someone broke your heart, you may want to consider humbling yourself! Sure, humble people get hurt a lot, but they do not continue suffering from brokenness like prideful people.

According to 1st Peter 5:5, we are each subject to other persons. Where I work, I am subject to what my boss tells me to do. So long as his orders are not immoral, illegal, or might cause harm to the company, I have to obey. It’s the same thing where I go to church. The pastor has authority over me there, too. As her husband, my wife is subject to me. The purpose of humility is just. Just as Jesus washed the feet of the disciples, we, too, must serve one another. 

This is Biblical, so it must be taken seriously and applied rightly. Christ-like submission pleases the Lord. We should stop behaving so proudly and learn to submit to the authorities God has placed above us. If someone tells you they only have to answer to God for what they do and say, observe them closely. If it isn't broken already, you’re about to see someone’s heart get shattered.

A Right Relationship with Jesus Makes All Things Right

"Then Jesus came to Nazareth, where he had been raised. As was his custom, he went into the synagogue on the Sabbath day. When he stood up to read, the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was handed to him. Unrolling the scroll, he found where it was written, "The Spirit of the Lord is on me because he has anointed me to tell the good news to the poor. He has sent me to announce release to the prisoners and recovery of sight to the blind, to set oppressed people free, and to announce the year of the Lord's favor." Then he rolled up the scroll, returned it to the attendant, and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fixed on him. Then he told them, "Today, this Scripture has been fulfilled in your hearing."  (Luke 4:16-21 ISV)

Praise the Lord, O my soul; let not all his blessings go from your memory. He has forgiveness for all your sins; he takes away all your diseases; He keeps back your life from destruction, crowning you with mercy and grace. He makes your mouth full of good things so that your strength is made new again like the eagle's. The Lord gives decisions in righteousness for all who are in trouble. He gave knowledge of his way to Moses and made his acts clear to the children of Israel. The Lord is kind and full of pity, not quickly made angry, but ever ready to have mercy. (Psalm 103:2-8 Bible In Basic English).

"For if you forgive people their offenses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if you do not forgive people their offenses, your Father will not forgive your offenses."  (Matthew 6:14-15 ISV)

Going back to my own personal situation, as I mentioned earlier, my search for God’s Word to prove myself right ended up exposing how wrong I really was. Don’t you just love it when God allows that to happen? What I learned was that my hurt feelings were allowed to stay and harass me simply because I unknowingly had allowed them to replace Jesus on the throne of my heart. 

At that time, my mind was not on Jesus. My thoughts were selfish. I focused on all of my hurt feelings. I had allowed my hurt feelings and thoughts of retaliation to take prominence over my thoughts of Christ and my service to Him. Oh, wonder I suffered so much! Jesus could not access and heal me of these things because my wicked desires had brushed Him aside. Eventually, I began to see this and came under the conviction of the Holy Spirit regarding MY sins that I had committed against Him. 

One reason I felt so miserable was because unforgiven sins cause us to be unfortunate persons. I had overlooked this! I learned that God does not bless unforgiven persons with peace of mind. God would be cruel to bless me when I had unforgiven sin in my life. In other words, I could have remained fat, dumb, happy, and lost had not God cursed sin. God loves me. God loves you, too. God wants us to have eternal life with Him. God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for the forgiveness of our sins. By His stripes, we are genuinely healed of our hurt feelings. The catch, though, is that we, too, must be willing to extend this forgiveness we receive to other persons. We MUST forgive, or else there will be no forgiveness for us.

Once I realized that I was bringing most of this on top of my own head, I began focusing on the example Jesus gave us. I started trying to forgive people as He does. By the time I had figured all of this out, it was hard for me to do. It is hard but not impossible since, with Christ, all things are made possible. I began working through practical steps of faith that expressed my desire to forgive. I trusted the Lord and took Him at His Word. The Lord honored this. He always honors this when our hearts are humbled before Him. It was not immediate, but not very long before I noticed I had no more hurt feelings regarding things past.

The story doesn’t end there simply because life and relationships continue. Dealing with people means that I will get my feelings hurt. So, this process of humbling myself and forgiving persons will never end until Jesus causes all evil to end. One day, Jesus will cause all evil to end. Until that day, we must hold fast to our faith in Christ and obey Him. We must make choices nearly every day to forgive or not. A right relationship with Jesus demands we be forgiving persons. A right relationship with Jesus liberates us from our hurt feelings!

When there is unforgiveness, sometimes a spirit of fear enters a person, causing anxiety, stress, worry, etc.

Do you suffer from social or generalized anxiety? Read Teresa Morin's testimony.

Jesus loves you and wants to take your social and/or generalized anxiety from you so that you can live an abundant and whole life in Christ Jesus, reaching your desired goals either in life or your career. I want to see as many as possible receive freedom, peace, and confidence in what God created you to become with purpose.

Coach Teresa Morin - Anxious2Victorious Women Coaching