How To Honor Parents!

How to Honor Parents that Never Validated You?

Introduction:

Honoring parents and husband is a significant aspect of many religious beliefs, including Christianity. However, what do you do when these individuals have abused you physically, emotionally, or spiritually in the past or present? How can you show respect and love towards them as instructed by the Bible while also prioritizing your well-being and mental health? Let's delve into these challenging questions and find a resolution based on God's teachings.
Main Keyword: How does a person honor their parents or husband if they have abused you physically, emotionally, or spiritually in the past or in the present God's way?

We know the word in Matthew 19:19: "19 Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.

Do you see it also says to love thy neighbor as thyself? When you are in an abusive situation, how can you love yourself?

Let me ask you this! Do some of you believe you have to honor your parents regardless of how cruel and neglectful they are if they use you for their benefit?

Did you know you only have to honor your parents to the degree they honor God? That means you do not honor their evil. Why would you honor their evil if they abuse you?

Do they represent the love of the Father if they do cruel things towards you? Not. They are in sin for not loving you correctly, so why would you honor their sin?

Are you in a yo-yo relationship where they manipulate you through guilt, and you run to serve them regardless of what it takes to satisfy them? Deep inside, you want them to finally say they love you and accept you. After all these years of running to every whim of theirs, where they will not let you go but manipulate you through guilt, have you ever heard them say they love you and that they are proud of you? I bet not.

In our classes, we teach separation that it is not them but sin, a spirit influencing them. We also teach to start loving ourselves and that it is not God's will for anyone to be abused, neglected, or victimized emotionally, spiritually, or physically. That means you do not have to go along with their sin. They are in sin for abusing you and misrepresenting the Father in Heaven.

You are a created being by God to have self-worth.

When you see, you don't have to honor their evil because they are being influenced by satan and not God. I hope this will free you to stop the lifetime of insanity of continually going back to abuse. That way of life does not produce peace, and our Lord is the author of Peace.

What does this mean? It means separating yourself from the abuse. You can honor your parents for giving you life if you cannot find anything good in them to honor them. This is called healthy boundaries that will set you free from continual abuse.

You have worth and purpose; unfortunately, the enemy is using your parents or even your husband to take away your purpose and worth.

If you continually go back to the abuse, then there is a co-dependency with evil. That means you are calling evil good. Also, going back to abuse shows self-hatred or low self-worth is operating in you. You see, if you are an adult and found God, you belong to Christ. In James 1:27, it says, "Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world."

You need to trust God to give you a new family of brothers and sisters. He will do this because his word says so here.

It says in Mark 10:29-30 "29 And Jesus answered and said, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my sake, and the gospels,

30 But he shall receive a hundredfold now in this time, houses, brethren, sisters, mothers, children, and lands, with persecutions; and in the world to come eternal life."

Now that is good news! As I said earlier in Matthew 22, we are told to love ourselves. So, if you believe you deserve the abuse, then you are in sin and not taking care of yourself emotionally.

You see when you are abused by those who should love you correctly, it produces self-hatred where you don't see worth in yourself. Like I said earlier, it is God's will for you not to be abused either emotionally, physically, or spiritually. It is God's will for you to live in peace.

You can love the good things about your parents from a distance or if it is a husband abusing you. You are not a victim, and when someone goes through abuse, they act like a victim instead of being victorious in the Lord.

Separate yourself from the cruelty because you are worth loving. You may not believe it to be true, but God's word says so, or he would have never sent his son to die for you.

Unfortunately, the churches send wives back to abusive husbands. That, I believe, is not God's will for a woman to be abused. I didn't say divorce but separation to force the man or woman to get help.

In our society today, children are removed from abusive homes, so why are adults expected to go back to abuse?

Leaving your spouse or separating yourself from evil parents has nothing to do with love but to follow God - you don't have to be a victim.

Some of you will fight with guilt. My question is, does guilt come from God? No, I don't think so.

When you see your parents, you can let them know your boundaries. When they act up, you just excuse yourself in love and leave. They will see you will not put up with their abuse. In fact, they might straighten up, but if they don't, you don't have to keep going back.