Chronic Excessive Worrier Stealing Your Joy?

 

We all can have issues to worry at certain times in our lives. Our children, finances, jobs, deadlines you cannot meet, marriage, etc. Then COVID hits, rocking our world and sending everyone working from home. Then, the adjustment.

 

What I’m talking about are those who struggle with excessive chronic worry. When not careful, our thoughts (some say the Devil), an extreme worrying person will cause you to worry beyond what’s reasonable. Means cannot stop it that robs you of life. It is like it becomes habitual.

 

Are you one of those who feel trapped by your fears and worries, unable to have any real quality of life? The truth is, worry is the opposite of faith—no condemnation, mercy, love, and grace.

 

The root of worry is fear. Worry can physically wear you out and even make you sick. When you cannot get worried under control, it can cause anxiety attacks. The anxiety attack is a worry out of control.

 

Physically to our bodies, when you worry, you release cortisol. A hormone only to be released when in danger. When we worry, too much cortisol is released continuously, causes fatigue, blocks our immune system, and interferes with digestion, which can manifest as IBS, acid reflux, etc. You not only damage your body but mental diseases.

 

Finding That Peace With God

 

Jesus wants to take our worries. He says 1 Peter 5:6-7 “So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.”

 

When you are overly anxiously worrying about something or someone, see yourself giving it over to Christ – toss it to Him or see yourself putting it on the cross.

 

In Jesus’ day, the farmers used a yoke, a kind of collar, to link two oxen. The yoke was then attached to another object, such as a plow. The two owsen shared the burden. Try applying the same principle except add Jesus. Jesus is our yoke to help carry the yoke of life with us. Invite Him to assist you with whatever is consuming your life with worry.

 

Matthew 11:29-30 “29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

 

If you still have problems casting your cares to the Lord, you may need help. My 90-day program will help you kick out the anxiety caused by anxious, negative thought patterns. I am launching a 90-day group in April, and seats are limited. 

Coach Teresa Morin
Anxious2Victorious Women Coaching Program - Kicking out anxiety

 

How to Plan and Achieve Your Goals

Oct 23, 2021

So now you have the goal, you need the plan. To do this, look at where you are now and then look at all the things you would need to build the life you are picturing. For instance, you might find that you need a certain amount of money to make your dream of travelling happen.

In that case, you need to look at the options available to you to make that money. Or maybe you want to achieve a certain thing in your career and you realize that in order to get there, there is a certain amount of experience you need to acquire first. How can you acquire said experience?

There are many similar examples of how you might go after a particular goal but the thing to remember in every case is that you need to focus on small steps that are just ahead of you. That might mean the next small promotion. It might mean a small upgrade to your home. It might mean developing any form of small income.

With that in mind, you will break these smaller goals down even further. Now the objective is to look at the most minor possible steps that you need to take on a daily or weekly basis to get there. So if your goal is to have a body like Brad Pitt, then that most minor daily step is simple: diet and exercise.

Look around, find a training plan and a diet that works for you, and then commit to sticking to that every single day without one flaw. Likewise, if your goal is to be a top novelist, then your daily goal will be to write X number of words per day. Make the goals easy to accomplish but ensure they take positive – if small – steps in the right direction.

This is the critical target. This is the primary directive. You’ll imagine that vision and let it motivate you when the times get rough. But you are going to forget anything other than the daily target. Right now, that is all that matters.

To help you visualize this, here is what it basically boils down to:

Dream/Vision (Overarching Goal) > Plan (Stepping Stone Goals) > Daily Target (Daily/Weekly Goal)

Changing Your Thinking

So why is this change in thinking so important? The answer is that focusing too much on a distant goal will make you too detached from what you’re trying to accomplish. For instance, if your only ‘goal’ is to become a novelist, you lack any real structure or plan.

This is going to make it very hard for you to stick to. It’s too easy for you to get lazy, take shortcuts, or even forget all about it. Even if your goal is more specific and time-sensitive – such as losing 15kg in 6 months – you are still too detached from it. Why? Because a) you might still think it’s okay to skip a workout or to cheat on your diet one day and then ‘put off’ the goal.

By the time you have 1 month left and you’re still no lighter, you might give up. Or what if you stick to the plan as much as possible but you still don’t see the results you want? How disheartening is that? So, instead, the goal is the target. You focus just on the one day.

You either succeed or fail. It is entirely down to you. It’s entirely your responsibility and no excuses cut it. But if you keep focusing on the daily targets, you will find that the overarching vision takes care of itself. It’s like building a house brick by brick, or taking a journey step-by-step.

Some Final Tips

Just to help you stick to your path, consider a few pointers.

One: keep your daily targets easy to accomplish. Introduce them slowly. Don’t be in a rush to get anywhere. It is better that you just start to enjoy exercise than letting yourself get burned out or put off.

Two: keep track of the days you succeed and lose. Jerry Seinfeld uses this technique and calls it ‘the chain’.

Every day he does what he sets out to do, he puts a big cross on his calendar. This is rewarding and addictive in and of itself, and his desire to ‘not break the chain’ is reportedly enough to keep him from giving up.

Three: use the most practical and proven methods to get where you want to be. You must believe in your plan.

Why are we willing to go to work every day but not work on a plan we enjoy and that could make us more prosperous? Simple: because when we go to work, we definitely get paid. You need a similar plan. Something that will help you get where you need to be, at least in your mind.

And finally, don’t get disheartened if you miss one day. The aim is not to, of course. But if you slip up, go easy on yourself and just jump straight back on that horse!

Coach Teresa Morin
Anxious2Victorious Women Coaching 12-Week Program

 

Reward Accomplishments if you Break your Habits

Oct 23, 2021

Life becomes more worth living when you know that for every good thing that you did, a reward is bound to come your way. By this time, you already know that stopping your addictions is possible only if you will really put your heart and mind to it. The last but definitely not the least tool for you to completely free yourself from your bad habits is learning to reward yourself for every accomplishment that you make.

Through meaningful rewards, you can be more motivated to do better the next day and you will strive even harder to make sure that you will get another great reward in the future. With this kind of inspiration and motivation, you will have the drive to become better and better every day as you finish your journey to complete recovery from your addiction.

Every Accomplishment Deserves a Good Reward

Reward systems are being used in many situations today. At home, in schools and even in workplaces, a reward system is considered as a helpful tool for people to do better. This serves as a motivation for the children to do their chores at home. Students learn to embrace their lessons better and complete their homework because they know that they will be rewarded for everything that they do.

Employees feel more valued and appreciated when their employees reward them for their achievements. Reward systems can certainly do wonders when it comes to inspiring people to strive better and even in your recovery from addiction, rewarding yourself for every accomplishment that you make can inspire you to move forward and finish what you have started.

Maybe you could say no to your friends’ invitation to go to the bar after work. Perhaps the sight of marijuana no longer made you feel any cravings to take a toke. Maybe you were able to stop yourself from watching the porn video that popped up during your search.

These things might seem like a simple accomplishment for others, but for those who are addicted to alcohol, marijuana, and pornography, these simple actions are a giant leap on their way to recovery, and these things definitely deserve some reward.

The rewards will be all up to. You can either set it for yourself or ask your family and friends to give you something for every accomplishment you make. The main point here is that you will get something good out of being able to resist the lure of your addictions.

At the end of the day, it is not really the reward that matters. What matters is that even if there is no reward, it will now be easier for you to say No to your addictions. This is because you have already accepted in your heart and mind that your bad habits will never do you any good, and letting them go is the only way for you to live the kind of life you want, the life you deserve.

Hopefully, this article has helped you in learning how to stop your addictions. Use the tools you discovered to break free from all your bad habits.

Teresa Morin
Anxious2Victorious Women Coaching Program - Kicking Out Anxiety

 

Suffering from Physical Anxiety Attack Symptoms?

Suffering from Physical Anxiety Attack Symptoms?

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Did you know there are reasons for anxiety, stress, and depression? It could extend from your past or something that has happened recently. People are often anxious because of a lack of love or acceptance when growing up. Or from a bad abusive marriage relationship. You may have gone through a traumatic event that is like an open door for the spirit of fear.

God's Word says in 2 Timothy 1:7 KJV "⁷ For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."

From this verse, we know fear is a spirit.

What are some ways fear can manifest, especially when there is a lack of love or acceptance?

• self-critical voice - self-condemnation, self-accusation words over self.
• self-doubt - the bible calls it double-mindedness - James 1:8 - hard to make decisions because of lack of confidence.
• procrastination - is it hard to start or complete projects? 
• feeling overwhelmed - feel oppressed, depressed, or not able to move forward because your mind cannot think clearly?
• overthinker - overthink everything because of fear of failure or making a mistake - a time waster. 
• people-pleasing - fear of rejection, trying to live up to other people's expectations to get that acceptance and approval.
• speaking negative words about your day, looking at the cup half empty instead of half full. 
• projecting fear into the future - expecting things to go wrong every day.
• excessive worrier - worry about everything, insecure, even lose sleep and your peace.
• anxious around relationships because of hurts, betrayals, slandering against you that caused you to go into fear.
• a driven perfectionist - everything you have to do because everything has to be perfect - fear of failure - the need for approval and acceptance in what you do. Didn't have that feeling of acceptance or approval growing up.

How about traumatic events?

• war vet
• terrorism
• locked in a closet
• car wreck
• born out of wedlock
• traumatic birth
• experienced emotional, mental, or physical abuse
• a life-threatening diagnoses
• bad news
• sudden loss of a loved one
• and much more

Can you relate? When there is trauma in your life, it is like a door point for the spirit of fear to come in.

Then, you suffer from the following anxiety symptoms affecting your health:

• insomnia
• high blood pressure
• cannot rest
• high cholesterol
• heart palpitations
• depression
• stomach issues such as IBS, acid reflux, constipation, diarrhea, etc.
• irritability
• headaches
• and much more

Then when you do get triggered with an anxiety attack or panic attack, do you suffer from physical anxiety attack symptoms below:

• Feeling nervous, restless, or tense
• Anxious
• Having a sense of impending danger, panic, or doom
• Having an increased heart rate
• Breathing rapidly (hyperventilation)
• Sweating
• Trembling
• Cannot breath
• Feeling weak or tired
• Trouble concentrating or thinking about anything other than the present worry
• Just cannot get out of bed

As you can see, physical anxiety attacks are no fun and can run your life, your social life, and you're work-life - your career can suffer from the loss of salary. There are answers to stop these issues.

Are you sick and tired of fear controlling your life? Isn't it time to do something about it?  Is it keeping you from your dreams from anxiety symptoms?

• overlooked for job promotions
• problems in your marriage because of the pressure?
• not getting the salary you deserve
• not being able to perform at your highest level, relationship problems (family, husband, work peers)
• misunderstood

Do you want to know why you have anxiety, stress, and depression? Did you know that God's Words in Proverbs 26:2 "s the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come." In my program, the first week, you will see how a spirit of fear attached itself to you. 

Isn't it time to do something about it? My program, Renew Your Mind: A Biblical Approach to Transformation in 12 Weeks, is a lifestyle to conquer anxiety, stress, and depression. Sign up for a 45-minute FREE strategy call.

See those who conquered anxiety, stress, and depression from my new eBook. 

Teresa Morin
Anxious2Victorious Women Coaching Program - Break the Anxiety Cycle

Self-Care

Steps for Self-Care to Overcome Anxiety

Learn steps of self-care that is self-love to overcome anxiety and keep it at bay.

1. Journaling

2. Walking in the park

3. soothing activities (e.g., massages, bath

4. relaxation

5. getting adequate sleep (or as much as possible!)

6. spending time with friends and family

7. making time for pleasurable activities (what do YOU like to do?)

One aspect of self-care is learning to say no when you are tired, exhausted, or not feeling well. 

How many can only go to bed once the kitchen is cleaned up spotless? Let me ask you a question. Is God more concerned about the kitchen being perfect, or are you taking care of the temple of God - You?

I believe the Lord, when we are exhausted wants us to rest and take care of ourselves. 

Isaiah 40:30-31 says:

“Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” – Isaiah‬ ‭40:30-31‬ ‭ESV‬‬ 💓

If you’re tired today, I want you to know it is okay. You are not a failure. God did not make you bulldoze your way through life nonstop.

God expects you to get tired. He’s planned for you to get weary because He knows you are human.👸

So what are we supposed to do when we get tired?

The scripture tells us to wait on God; when we do, He will renew our strength. God knows we have our limits, but He doesn’t. God knows we can’t do it all, but He can. God knows we’ll get tired, weary, and faint, but He won’t.

Give yourself permission to rest. Why will the dirt or mess still be there tomorrow? You can rest and take care of it tomorrow. 💇

If in the middle of the day, sit down and close your eyes for about 10 minutes. You will be renewed. Think how the Lord is going to renew your strength. 

Saying no is a radical form of self-care because it helps you prioritize your well-being over your obligations and relationships. Of course, there are deadlines to meet, conversations to have, and things to check off your to-do list. Everything can seem pressing and urgent, but boundaries help us prioritize what we need to do right now versus what we can do later when we’re less stressed, more energetic, and generally well.

If you’re overwhelmed by a long workday, it may not be an excellent time to listen to others talk about their problems. When you’re in the mood for a relaxing evening at home, declining an invite for a night on the town is ok by others. Boundaries help keep us connected without becoming enmeshed. In my work as a social worker, here’s what I’ve learned about the word “no” and what saying it, more often than not, has done for me.

Life can be difficult. When circumstances prevent you from spending time with loved ones, you might feel alone for physical affection. Touch is a basic need, so this is absolutely normal. Going without can have a significant impact on your emotional health, such as anxiety, sadness, loneliness, etc. 

By: Teresa Morin
Anxious2Victorious Women Coaching Program