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Sunday, December 10, 2023

Types of Fear - three steps to combat fear

What is a spirit of Fear Verses

Fear vs. Faith

Three steps to combat fear to return to faith in God. 

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There are over 4000 different types of fear, so it comes at us in many different forms. The most fearful being in creation is a Fallen Archangel, Satan, the opposite of faith. Satan knows his time is short. Faith and fear cannot coexist. They both project into the future. Faith projects good outcomes, and fear projects terrible things to happen. If you project fear, a person will become fearful daily. Fear is doubt and unbelief. So fear is the absence of faith. 

Ezek 28:19
19 All they that know thee among the people shall be astonished at thee: thou shalt be a terror, and never shalt thou be any more.

Five common fears manifest as the following:

Fear and faith bible verses
Worry: The English word comes from the Anglo-Saxon root, meaning to choke or strangle. It is the suffocating feeling of unease that we experience when we ponder a real problem with no apparent answer. Worry results in a person who looks at life with no hope in his thinking process. When he looks at a disturbing situation, he believes he is alone in his world and is responsible for solving the problem out of the resources of his wisdom. Wrong, there is always God in the equation.

Luke 18:27 "And he said, The things which are impossible with men are possible with God."

Anxiety: In Latin, it can mean to suffocate, press tightly, or be strange. The English word comes from the Latin anxius, which describes an inner turmoil, the troubling of the mind about an uncertain event. Fear and worry are directed toward a real and identifiable object or an object that appears natural. Anxiety produces all the same feelings, but there is no real and identifiable object; it is possible to be anxious and not to know why. It describes a constant tension over something that may or may not happen in the future.

Phil 4:4-8
4 Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice.
5 Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.
6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Distress - bad stress: The Hebrew word means to cause misery, sorrow, suffering, to exhaust or weaken with strain. It describes a narrow, constricted canyon, which describes overcrowding, being pressed or crushed: mental and spiritual claustrophobia.

Rom 8:35-39
35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
36 As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.
37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Panic: The word derives from the demon god of Creek mythology, Pan, who was believed to suddenly fill people with terror. It unleashes fear and anxiety in the overwhelming flood of terror. It produces immobility of the mind, terror in the emotions, sweaty palms, palpitating heart, ringing ears, dizziness, nausea, the feeling that we are on the verge of sanity, hot flashes, chills, choking and intense loneliness.

1 Pet 3:14-15
14 But and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled;
15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:

Timidity: From the Latin, time, to fear. This is an attribute of a person who is very easily frightened and has no self-confidence. It is the constant tendency to be afraid of everything and everyone. Here, the enemy is stealing your identity in the new birth. You have a hard time believing the truth of who God saw from the foundation of the world.

The Spirit of Fear is used to get our eyes off the promises of God, stuck looking at our situation that robs our faith.

Three steps to overcome a Spirit of Fear:

1. Recognize the lie or negative thought
2. Cast it down - disagree and throw it into the trash - 2 Cor. 10:5
3. Reframe your thoughts with God's truth and promises that combat fear and create faith to believe again. 

Wednesday, November 01, 2023

The Reframing Thoughts of Fear to Peace - WX11523


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Are you a control freak? Maybe you are dealing with a spirit of fear. There is no way, no matter how hard you try, you can control everything all the time. You cannot control what's happened or what will happen, but you can control how you perceive it.

Control Freak Meaning

Control freaks tend to have a psychological need to be in charge of things and people - even circumstances that cannot be controlled. The need for control, in extreme cases, stems from deeper psychological issues such as obsessive–compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), anxiety disorders, or personality disorders.

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Reframe your Thoughts

It is reframing your thoughts. Reframing is when we decide not to hang on to old perceptions that have worked against us. It means choosing a different, godly, more productive way of thinking. 

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  1. Stay calm. If you react, you will probably react how you've always responded. Are your reactions positive or negative?
  2. Identify the situation. When exactly, and indeed, is happening? 
  3. Identify the automatic thoughts that cause the negative response. If someone breaks something in your house, you automatically respond to panic. You cannot control what breaks, you can control how to perceive it. Instead of thinking the automatic response, identify the thought, take it captive, and make it obedient to Christ.
  4. Find objective, supportive evidence. Deal with the reality. Yes, things are going to break in your home. Trust God, find a scripture to stand on, and renew your mind with truth. There is no reason to freak out.
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You can take these steps, but you cannot control what happens. 

One thing to remember is you may fall again. Dash to the Lord, repent, so when guilt, shame, or accusation comes your way, you can tell the enemy you are forgiven. Don't receive the guilt. Second, forgive yourself.

The entire bible is based on these three things: 1. Love God, 2. Love Others, 3. Love yourself. That means forgiving yourself.

A feeling of separation from God happens whenever there is any breach in these three areas. The Bible is all about love. We are His creation. I've seen too many people who cannot forgive themselves for their past sins. We must appropriate the Word of God of truth to break free from bondages of self-hatred. Learn to do self-care and love yourself and not fall into the enemy's lies.

If you've done five steps and are still stuck, in bondage, tormented, or broken, you may need some help and receive deliverance.

Coach Teresa Morin
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Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Fear of Man brings a snare

Fear of Rejection in Relationships

Do you Fear of Rejection in Love?

Fear of Man brings a snare

Did you know the fear of man robs your destiny? Do you have a fear of rejection in relationships? Why? That fear of man is really a need for acceptance, and that person will do anything to find acceptance by avoiding confrontation or not having their own voice or opinion to keep peace at all costs.

God has a calling on your life! Are you going to let the enemy rob you? Did you know that if a man rejects your opinion, it is not the end of the world?

That Spirit of Fear keeps you from walking in your natural and supernatural gifts in you. When you realize you are in bondage, you know you could have done more for the Lord.

Peter walked with Jesus all that time, seeing miracle after miracle, and yet, in the end, he denied Christ. He had a fear of man that caused him to deny Christ. Later, he went on to do great things. Doing what God calls us to does not necessarily mean it's a Full-Time Ministry position.

•Have you lost a child? Possibly death- miscarriage, disease, adoption, abortion.
•Have you lost a parent or spouse? In death, divorce.
•Have you lost a home and belongings? Due to death, divorce, unemployment, catastrophic weather?
•Have you lost the ability to work and are disabled for a season? Due to disease or an accident?

These are just a few examples of things that we all experience in one way or another. If you have overcome with God in victory to peace and joy in Christ, is someone waiting to hear how you do this?How do you survive and want to live another day. How can they be healed?

So when you study Fear, Stress, and Physiology and learn how Fear and Trauma rob you of so very much of His Joy in this life! You get excited at Knowing that God is waiting for the Truth in His word to override what the enemy has meant for evil! That you can now walk in complete wholeness- His Peace. (nothing missing, nothing broken) That is the Good News! Selah

Do you suffer from social or generalized anxiety?

Jesus loves you and wants to take your social and/or generalized anxiety from you so that you can live an abundant and whole life in Christ Jesus, reaching your desired goals either in life or your career. I want to see as many as possible receive freedom, peace, and confidence in what God created you to become with purpose.

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Wednesday, February 02, 2011

Practical Steps out of Spirit of Fear

Practical Steps From the Spirit of Fear

What is the spiritual Root of Fear

Practical Steps out of Spirit of Fear

What is fear? Fear is a worry, projecting fear, etc. It can be a worrying issue at the job, worry over finances, worries over your children. It can be stressful, which is internal by some expectation you put on yourself or by others trying to perform and having that fear of man, failure, rejection if you do not do a good job, and many other types of fear. More symptoms of fear...

Some of the symptoms of fear:
  • cold hands,
  • cold feet,
  • tension in the neck or soreness,
  • leg cramps,
  • racy mind,
  • confused thinking when overwhelmed with life.

  1. Make a decision (resist) and tell God you don't want fear anymore. You need to make a bold declaration to the Lord. I do not accept the fear in your life anymore.
  2. Ask God to discern how fear is impacting your life. Find out where fear entered your life.
  3. Repent to God, specifically for each way you have given into fear, not trusted Him, and not believed in His Word. You have to do that when fear is present. That means when you are having a panic attack or struggling with fear, repent to fear because fear is a sin. It is opposite to God because everything about God is faith. Fear is a spirit, according to 2 Timothy 1:7: "He did not give us a spirit of fear but of sound mind...
  4. Ask God to forgive you for these sins or fears you have entertained and to work in your heart so that you can genuinely trust and believe God and be free from fear.
  5. Walk in this every day. How do you break old habits? You are developing new habits by doing this daily until you have God as your faith instead of being ruled by fear and anxiety. That means to ask God to deliver you from this spirit of fear.
  6. When fear tries to come, quote the word at it or the enemy. 2 Timothy 1:7 for God has not given me a spirit of fear but of a sound mind. The word is a spiritual weapon. Ask the Lord to help you to believe his word as truth, and will not believe what fear is saying to you anymore. Look up the promises of God in scripture to combat fear.
  7.  Find a ministry that understands deliverance and can work to bring you to freedom. Especially if a person has had trauma. Trauma brings in fear that can grip, so look for a ministry to deal with the spirit of fear.

Every time we feel fear rising up in us, we have to decide what we will believe. When you believe in God's word, which repeatedly declares that when you trust Him, He will protect and care for you and save you from all your trouble or anxiety. Or will we accept the fear that speaks against the word of God? 

This is a part you play to get fear defeated in your life. You must continually choose to believe God no matter what things might look like to you in your natural eyes or mind. Then, you will have a living faith in the word of god to come to pass in your lives.
Psalms 27:1 The Lord is my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear. The Lord is the strength of my life whom shall I be afraid of?

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Friday, October 15, 2010

Do You Have A Broken Heart?

How Does A Heart Get Broken?

He Binds up their wounds

Do You Have A Broken Heart?

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Is There Hope For Healing for a Broken Heart?  The answer is Yes because Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted.

Jesus Came to Heal the Broken Hearted

Jesus said in Luke 4:18-19, Jesus Isaiah, "The Spirit of the Lord is upon me because he has anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he has sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised, to preach the acceptable year of the Lord."

Prov 15:13 "A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken." (KJV)

That means the Lord came to do all of the following: heal the brokenhearted, bring deliverance to the captive and heal the sick. According to the Bible, the heart is the center of spiritual activity and all the operations of human life. "Heart" and "soul" are often used interchangeably. A wounded spirit or Broken Heart is hurting. A person with a wounded spirit lives in inner misery and focuses regularly on his injuries or pain and cannot receive the cleansing. Usually, there is unforgiveness in a wounded heart, and unforgiveness and bitterness are the glue that holds the pain in your heart. Forgiveness is one of the major steps to bring healing and peace to a person.

If you have a broken heart, you cannot experience the love of God, love yourself, or love others properly.  You are in fear of relationships with God, yourself, and others.  If not healed, you will not have peace with God, yourself, and others, then Satan can have the marrow of your bones. 

If Satan can get you to violate the principle of teaching of the law and the prophets, your marrow is his to bring about disease. 

Why is the heartbroken?
  • accepted
  • cherished
  • loved
  • acknowledged
  • respected
  • nurtured
  • protected.

Our need for love is our most basic need; all our other needs are satisfied when we are loved.  When this basic need is unmet, it forms a strong foundation for other hurts and trauma. In other words, traumatic events in our lives will affect us more severely when we have unmet needs.   Our ability to cope with stressful situations is then damaged and distorted, creating a broken heart.

Satan wants to take from you your relationship with God, yourself, and others.  Satan is the executor of the curse.  If he can get you to listen to his lies, you are a prisoner of negative thoughts by Satan.

Symptoms of a Broken Heart

If the spirit is damaged, wounded, or corrupted in any way, our ability to relate usually to others, ourselves, and God is hampered. For a small minority of the injured, the damage is only slight; they can get on with their lives, with the hurt causing only a minimum of irritation or inconvenience. Many more of the wounded are more affected and limp through life. 

They survive a relatively everyday life but fail to realize their full potential in their friendships, marriages, day-to-day relationships with others, and God's full potential for them. Then, there are those with extreme or severe damage to their spirit. These people are greatly incapacitated and dysfunctional with all manner of emotional, spiritual, physical, mental, relational, and financial. These people are forced to crawl or need to be carried through life.

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Has anyone ever told you that you have a broken heart or tried to help you get your heart healed! Have you met people who, no matter how hard they try to walk, seem to fall, or one day have faith and the next not have the faith but be full of doubt and unbelief? That’s because they have a broken heart and cannot stand it. You can tell them to stand on the word and quote promises, but they cannot stand.  

You have difficulty believing what God has done for you when you have a broken heart. You are accepted, a child of God, etc. You lose sight or never come to understand our inheritance or identity in Christ.  Your thoughts are filtered through life experiences because of negative thoughts stuck in the past with the pain of the past.

Looking at Thought

For every thought that arises in your mind, there is a corresponding electrochemical reaction in your brain. Every time you think, chemicals flow feedback loops.

These chemicals produce electromagnetic waves. At any moment, your brain creatively performs about 400 billion actions, of which you will only be conscious of around 2000.

Each of these actions has a chemical and an electrical component.  Emotions that regularly release a torrent of destructive chemicals and will be the most damaging over time are: - All Christian. All Single!

· Anger and rage
· Resentment
· Depression
· Worry
· Anxiety
· Frustration
· Fear
· Excessive grief
· Guilt.

Research shows 87% of illnesses can be attributed to our thought life and only 13% to diet, genetics, and environment.  Medical science has directly linked emotions such as depression to an increased risk of cancer and heart disease.

So when someone is hurting because of a broken heart, as I said earlier, life is filtered through life events, and so you can quote the word of God or the promises to someone, the promises don't come.  Why? Because your heart is broken. You have holes like a bucket with holes in it. You put the promises of God in the bucket, but they flow out of the holes because you are not able to overcome the rejection, abandonment, guilt, shame, fear, and a host of other tormenting fruit from Satan’s kingdom.  The promises don't come because of unforgiveness towards those who hurt you. 

Betrayal Breaks the Heart

Many times, a person with a broken heart has suffered from betrayal.  Betrayal is like piercing your heart with a dagger, and all the wind of life has left you.  You actually lose breath when someone betrays you, especially when it is someone you trust.  The pain can be inbarrable.

A person with a broken heart usually ends up with diseases because many times a person is caught up on the performance wheel. Are you madly striving to prove to the world and yourself that you have value or worth! Are you trying to gain love and acceptance from parents by doing things always right but never getting recognition or acceptance?  Or did you simply shut down, living in a silent, merciless hell of isolation, or a little of both?

I Had a Lot of Diseases From A Broken Heart and Been Healed and Restored - See Video:
  • Heart Disease - Mitro Valve Prolapse
  • Low Thyroid
  • Blood Disease
  • Chronic Fatigue
  • Environmental Allergies
  • Food Allergies
  • Back Pain - Arthritis
  • Asthma
  • Depression
  • Multiple Personality Disorder - DID
  • Leg Restless Syndrome
  • ADD / ADHD
  • Learning Disability
  • Chronic Bronchitis
  • Epilepsy
  • Insomnia
  • Extreme Anxiety
  • Panic Attacks
  • Extreme Fear

The Hebrew word translated broken is a strong word. It means "Wrecked, shattered, even crippled or maimed." The Hebrew word for wounded is “to profane (to profane oneself, defile oneself, pollute oneself a) ritually b) sexually), defile, pollute, desecrate:
  1. to violate the honor of, dishonor;
  2. to violate (a covenant), 4) to treat as standard.
A broken heart comes from life’s devastation. Life’s devastation is that God never wanted us to be trapped in or have happened to any of His children. Through a broken heart, strongholds are formed in the mind.
how to heal a broken heart

Have you been told to grab your promises and stand on them, confess them until they happen - that is biblical, depending on how it was taught. Are you said to give for your healing to these faith preachers and did not get your healing or blessing? Maybe they are wrong. You’ve been told in Proverbs 3:5 to Trust the Lord with all thy heart. How can you trust the Lord or have faith to stand on the promises of God with a broken heart!

The faith preachers tell you to grab your promises and have faith to get your crops to come in. Your crop doesn’t come in because you have a broken heart. After all, you have a breach in love. You are not able to stand totally in faith. How important is faith? We are told without faith, it is impossible to please god (Mark 11:22-23).

We are supposed to meditate on the promises of God. With a broken heart, you will be hindered and not able to stand 100% of the time in faith in God. You will have doubt and unbelief come into your mind from Satan, the father of lies, telling you that you are rejected and unlovable, etc., causing more emotional pain.  He will say that God really doesn’t love you.” You will believe it and stop standing for the promises because, with a broken heart, it is hard to believe in the truth.

Hebrews 10:17: “And their sins and their lawless deeds I remember no more." A person with a broken heart walks in guilt. It does not matter how often you tell them they are forgiven, they still walk in guilt, shame, condemnation from the enemy. It becomes a stronghold in the mind.

When you have a stronghold, you have something that has a hold of you, and you cannot behave any differently than from that character or nature of that stronghold. For example, you will view the world with fear if you have fear. When the light comes through the filter of fear, rejection, guilt, shame, etc.

A stronghold is a strongman, a devil with a hold on your life that has a characteristic that is antichrist, and it behaves that way. Most often, it will sound like your own voice. Most people, Christians, have been fellowshipping with devils by believing the lies of the enemy or submitting to the lies. Spiritually rooted circumstances require spiritual results.

How To Heal A Broken Heart

Paul talks about casting down imaginations (the strongholds) in 2 Corinthians 10:5. What are the imaginations? First, we need to realize there are two spirit world realities (Satan and God). Imaginations are lies from Satan. From Satan, you will hear such things as you are a loser, you are not good enough, you are not going to make it, never be healed, set free, etc. It is all the things that go against what God says he wants for you. We are to cast down imaginations. That’s why Paul talks about how weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God for pulling down strongholds and casting down vain imaginations against God.

Whose report are you going to believe?  Are you going to feel the lies of the past from parents, siblings, teachers, etc., or believe in God's word in what he says about who you are?  

Looking at Thought in What Negative Thoughts Do to Your DNA

multiple chemical sensitivity
DNA on the inside.
If you have been repeatedly verbally abused by someone at work, or if you were sexually abused as a child, all the thoughts associated with those experiences will release harmful chemicals - those are filters in how you look at life.

These chemicals can change the shape of the receptors on cells lining your heart, thereby increasing your susceptibility to cardiovascular illness.

The hypothalamus is the heart of your hormonal system, and it responds to
The hippocampus to release to the emotions attached to the thought.

Then, be a true responder to your emotional state.  It is the reason that a toxic thought life can destabilize your brain and create a frenzy of broken feedback loops, disrupting the natural flow and balance of chemicals in your brain. This, in turn, will affect your emotional and physical state.

The answer the world gives to try and help people suffering from mental and physical health problems related to negative emotions is “happy pills” – pharmaceutical drugs aimed at trying to change the brain’s chemistry and make us feel good. In turn, chemicals-related hypothalamus can claim tree-like branches at each dendrite via the five. synapses  (small chemical gaps) between neurons that form interconnected neural circuits. 

Whenever you think, whether your thoughts are toxic or not, you build a memory  (information) on your thought trees, one on the left side of your brain and one on the right side. Double all the content of your thinking. The more you believe, the more you understand. The more focused and aware your thinking, the more this synergy will occur and the stronger the memory you will build. This literally means that the branches of the thought trees become firmly attached.
If you pay only brief attention to the content of your thoughts, your thinking will be on a lower level, with less
synergy. The memory you build in your thought trees will be correspondingly weak. It will be pruned off when you sleep by vacuum cleaners called glial cells.  This is what it means to forget. Little glial cells are so essential to brain functioning that your neurons could not work correctly without them.

They provide all the support, resources, and backup, including the nourishment and protection your neurons need to do all that hard work in receiving, analyzing, processing, and storing information. Glial cells also operate as your cleaners generated by the thought trees. So, the glial cells, in effect, sort out your thinking.

They can’t do a good job unless you think clearly. Brain-cell. They dispose of waste material.  Faith and fear are spiritual forces with chemical and electrical representation in the body.

How can you have faith and peace with God and rejoice in the hope of the glory of God in your sufferings and tribulations if you have a broken heart? You cannot! If you have a broken heart, again, you will believe the lies of the enemy telling you lies that are opposite to God’s word.

Jesus didn’t say that bad things would not happen to you, but He gave you the tools to be healed through the Gospel of Christ.

In Psalms 147:3, Scripture states, speaking of God: "He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds." Hebrews 4:14-16 states Jesus lived a life of sorrows and understood how to heal the broken heart!

We all deal with unfinished business and unresolved issues; time doesn't necessarily heal old wounds of abuse; healing is slow and arduous.

How do you know if you have a broken heart? Read the list below. A person with a deep, broken heart struggles in many of the areas listed below:
  • Cannot understand the things of God. Don't think God loves you like He loves others.
  • It develops multiple chemical sensitivities and many other diseases to follow. 
  • Inability to Recognize God’s Presence.
  • Cannot bring forth good things in their lives. They have more things go wrong than good.
  • Not being blessed financially even when they give tithes. Only able to stand once your crop comes in (financially).
  • Needs help with reading the Word and meditating on the Word.
  • Living in mental pain and trapped or preoccupied with the past. Dwelling on adverse events.
  • Will seem spiritually asleep and spiritually immature.
  • Struggles to understand teaching.
  • People in authority who hurt and do not love them have a trust problem.
  • They go by feelings and cannot go by faith.
  • Come across as a negative person and have chronic hostility, sarcasm, cynicism, critical and judgmental of others.
  • They will be caught up in work instead of grace, meaning being performance-oriented to prove their worth.
  • Has a hard time receiving love from others or loving themselves.
  • Will have a history of seeing psychologists, etc., and even problems with thoughts of suicide.
  • They will be negative about everything and not able to see anything positive and will lack peace and joy. History of depression and other mental disorders.
  • Will have more things go wrong in their lives.
  •  Will not know their identity in Christ and know your promises in Him, especially during trials, and hear the truth but cannot hold onto the truth.
  • Not able to keep God’s commandments and will have trouble with sin. Prone to adultery and pornography and want to feel love and feel better. Possibly other addictions to food and people such as codependency!
  • Will be fearful.
  • Will have physical ailments that seem to not go away.
  • You will not be able to get rid of your anger and have fits of anger and rage when feeling rejected.
  • Will view himself or herself as the sufferer and want self-pity from others.
  • Will blame others by holding others responsible for the misery in their life.
How does someone get a broken heart?
Here are some of the ways (abuse, unkind words, sorrow, betrayal, false accusations, divorce, rejection/abandonment, trauma, conditional love, etc.) listed below:

Abuse - Abuse takes on four forms: physical, spiritual/religious abuse or cult abuse (emotional, mental, and verbal), sexual and psychological abuse (emotional, mental, and verbal). Abusers are usually brought up in a dysfunctional family. The more abusive the adult, the more dysfunctional the family …and so on. Most people are never taught parenting skills.

"Scorn has broken my heart and has left me helpless. I looked for sympathy, but there was none, for comforters, but I found none" Psalm 69:20.

Definitions of types of abuse are outlined below:

Physical abuse - including assault and any deliberate act resulting in physical injuries, including beatings in the guise of corporal punishment but which are delivered with fists or to the child's head.
Spiritual and/or Religious, including:
  • The child is forced to accept the narrow, exclusive religious views of the parent or guardian to the exclusion of any other belief or possibility of any belief
  • The child is starved of development in interpersonal skills and relationships in the name of religion
  • The child is subjected to strange, unnatural, and often perverse beliefs on sexual matters and sexual development in line with the religious belief.
  • The child is discouraged or prevented from associating with anyone not sharing the religious belief of the parent or guardian.

A church can do spiritual abuse on adults.

A pastor or minister usually subjects their church members to a hierarchical structure that equates leadership with job titles and demands unquestioning submission and obedience from people lower down the organizational totem pole. In an abusive church, the use of guilt, fear, and intimidation to control members is likely to produce members who have a low self-image, who feel beaten down by legalism, and who have been taught that asserting oneself is not spiritual. Control-oriented leaders attempt to dictate what members think, although the process is so spiritualized that members usually need to realize what is going on.

Sexual abuse - including incest, rape, buggery, or any pedophile activity for the gratification of the abuser. The abuser usually has a sexually dysfunctional or unsatisfying relationship with their partner; sexual relations may be violent, inadequate, or non-existent, and the child becomes a convenient substitute. Children who have suffered from sexual abuse usually have a great deal of shame/guilt and self-hatred toward themselves and others.

Emotional abuse, including:
  • Refusal unwillingness or inability to express love
  • Conditional love ("I don't love you when you behave like that")
  • Loving one child to the exclusion of all others
  • Cocooning and smothering, denying the child the opportunity to develop as a separate individual
  • Being forced into any conflict between parents
  • Being used as a pawn by warring parents
  • Being forced into a caring or caretaker role at an inappropriate age
  • Witnessing alcohol or substance abuse, especially regularly, perhaps being forced to participate
  • Witnessing violence between parents or adults

 Psychological abuse, including:

  • Constant criticism of a trivial and unjustified nature
  • Unjustified blame, often for things that have no connection with the child (scapegoat)
  • Refusal to value
  • Refusal to acknowledge the child and their achievements and/or praise
  • Inconsistency in judgment
  • Unclear, shifting, and inconsistent boundaries, sometimes no boundaries, at other times very tight boundaries
  • Refusal to make eye contact with the child over a long period
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  • Refusal of parents to agree with or support each other when dealing with children
  • Unpredictable behavior on the part of the parents
Unkind Words - The old saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me," is a dangerous lie. Words have spiritual values. They can create life in our spirit or they can produce death. Negativity and criticism can do more to wound and bruise the spirit than physical violence. Maybe you had parents or a father who had spoken negative words or another way of saying it, “word curses” over your life, and you believed them.

"The tongue has the power of life and death" Proverbs 18:21.

"A lying tongue hates those it wounds and crushes, and a flattering mouth works ruin" Proverbs 26:28.  "The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit" Proverbs 15:4. “The words of a man’s mouth are as deep waters” (Proverbs 18:4).

Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh and bitter water from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs?” (James 3:10-12).

 Some children are more sensitive than others so words can pierce the soul of a child very deeply, especially if they suffer with rejection. Some children are subject to hurtful or cruel parents/grandparents and/or teachers that also can cause deep wounding of the heart.

Sorrow - or heartache is a damaging emotion.

"A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache (sorrow KJV) crushes the spirit" Proverbs 15:13.

Heartbreak is frequently the end product of an unfulfilled desire or craving, the outcome of unrealistic expectations, where another person or some material pursuit is worshipped or idolized. It can also result from an inability to forgive and let go of those who have sinned against us.

"So also my heavenly Father will deal with every one of you if you do not freely forgive your brother from your heart his offences" Matthew 18:35.

 A wounded spirit comes as a result of a reaction to negative words, events, actions, or a violation of your person or rights – a re-action that crushes you, knocks you down and from which you cannot seem to raise. It crushes an area of your life – your spirit – that is quite devastating in how it affects us. It seems we cannot heal ourselves of a wounded spirit.
Betrayal - This is indeed a very hurtful thing to work through, especially a betrayal of confidence.

To be betrayed means “to disclose a secret or confidence treacherously; to break a promise, or be disloyal to a person’s trust; to disappoint the expectations of.”

When the children of Benjamin and Judah sought out David in the wilderness, one of the leading question he asked them was, “If you come to betray me to my enemies, seeing there is no wrong in my hands, the God of our fathers look thereon, and rebuke it” (1 Chronicles 12:16-17, KJV).

David knew the power and hurt of betrayal, and he guarded against it as much as possible. Jesus warned there would be “many offended, and shall betray one another” (Matthew 24:10). The keeping of promises and confidences is very necessary if we do not want to be guilty of wounding our friends. Jesus was betrayed!

The worst type of betrayal is usually from parents, second-best friends, and third being hurt by the church leadership.

False Accusations – Is being falsely accused by someone else about you.

Sometimes, it is because of jealousy; occasionally, it is just enjoying seeing one put down; other times, it is ignorant gossip. Many false accusations have no effect upon us, but then there comes one that is “a bit close to the bone.” It is directed at a loved one, yourself, or your ministry. If we don’t see those false accusations as being what they are – false!

We can take the accusation “on board,” which lodges in our spirit. We get wounded. This is where honesty is so important. We have to be honest with God, ourselves, and other people. If the accusation is false, keep it false. Don’t allow the enemy to “take us out” because we react wrongly. (If the accusation happens to be accurate, then we need to do something about it).

- This is another “biggie,” especially as it is so rampant in society today. To experience going from one extreme of being so in love with someone that you marry that person and then to see it all change to the point where they can no longer love and live together is a great tragedy. It affects the emotions, afflicts the mind, throws the children into turmoil, upsets the wider family and relatives, and changes one’s life. Rejection can become a huge issue. Many hurts are picked up. Attitudes are hardened! Later, if those wounds are not dealt with and healed, the “baggage” from the broken marriage is carried over to a new relationship. Often, the process repeats itself. More hurt and wounding eventuate.

Rejection/Abandonment – Some children have had extreme rejection or abandonment from parents because of an unwanted pregnancy or being born at an inconvenient time.  This opens the door for a spirit of fear and abandonment, which can be the physical or emotional spirit of abandonment.

Most people have deep fears of rejection and abandonment, as well as of domination and engulfment. These fears stem from childhood experiences and from defining our worth externally through others’ approval rather than internally through spiritual eyes of truth. We will be unable to share our love to the fullest extent until we heal these fears of the loss of others and the loss of self. We will be unable to create a safe relationship space to share love and a safe world in which to live until we learn how to create safety within.
Trauma – A reaction to trauma is the person's tendency to identify himself/herself as a victim. See abuse that covers some types of trauma.  Trauma creates a door point for a spirit of fear to come into a person's life, creating fight-to-flight responses.  

Again, there are different types of trauma. Trauma can happen through natural disasters, war, attacks, sexual abuse, ritual abuse, spiritual, psychological, and physical violence, abandonment from the family, living alone in the streets at a young age, etc.); the main characteristic is the person’s impossibility to face the experience. 

Such a reaction reinforces the traumatic effect on the child's personality: decrease of self-confidence, self-esteem and self-image, these children do not trust in their inner strengths to deal with life experiences any more, and they are feeling deep mistrust towards environment and future, they are suffering from feelings of helplessness and inner insecurity. Identifying themselves as victims increases these troubles, like a "confirmation" of the children's helplessness and incapacity to face experiences and stimulations coming from the environment.

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Conditional Love – conditional love can cause a broken heart. Love is the lifeblood of our spirit. The human heart is where God should reside and manifest His love. Man's spirit body should vibrate in oneness with God's love, directing our physical body's actions.

Conditional love, or loving “if,” is based on someone acting a certain way. In other words, someone who loves with conditions will love a person only if he or she behaves a certain way or lives his or her life in a manner pleasing to the other person. A person who grew up with conditional love will have difficulty accepting God’s love freely. They will be performance-driven to earn God’s love.

Sin - Sin is the curse of humanity! Sin is whatever comes between God and us! It affects our spirit! In Psalm 38, we read of David acknowledging a wounding in his life and spirit:

“Your arrows have pierced me, and your hand has come down upon me . . . there is no health in my body; my bones have no soundness because of my sin. My guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear. My wounds fester and are loathsome because of my sinful folly . . . ” (Psalm 38:1-5, NIV).
David was hurting because of his guilt and consciousness of sin.

“For your sin is an incurable bruise, a terrible wound. There is no one to help you or to bind up your wound and no medicine does any good. All your lovers have left you and don’t care anything about you any more; for I have wounded you cruelly, as though I were your enemy; mercilessly, as though I were an implacable foe; for your sins are so many, your guilt is so great” (Jeremiah 30:12-14, TLB).

David was hurting because of his guilt and consciousness of sin.

“For your sin is an incurable bruise, a terrible wound. There is no one to help you or to bind up your wound and no medicine does any good. All your lovers have left you and don’t care anything about you any more; for I have wounded you cruelly, as though I were your enemy; mercilessly, as though I were an implacable foe; for your sins are so many, your guilt is so great” (Jeremiah 30:12-14, TLB).

If you struggle with unforgiveness toward your parent for any of the above, try to see that the Lord used your parents to bring life to you. He put it in you to find the Lord as your father to meet all your needs. When we accept Christ, we receive a new identity in Him (2 Cor. 5:17). We become adopted into His kingdom (Romans 8:19).

If a person does not receive the Love that God created us to receive, whether settled or brittle, they will stop loving or never learn to love themselves at all – they will have self-hatred. The area of self-hatred is the most obscure and challenging part of the great commandment. Matthew 22:37-39 “37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” How can you love the Lord with all your heart when you don’t have all your heart? How can you love your neighbors or yourself if you have a broken heart?

a. Others b. God c. Self

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God is serious about you loving him, as He is serious about you loving Him. He made you in his image. You are joint heirs with Christ. If you don’t love yourself, then you are in self-hatred. That means you are despising God’s creation of you! That is a sin, and you need to repent of it!

Separation in any of these areas affects you in six areas: mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, relationally, and financially.
A person with a broken heart struggles to discern the voice of God. They usually do not hear the acceptance. They hear less than shame and fear, self-criticism, judgment, self-judgment, self-condemnation, etc. It sounds like their own voice. Why, either God will talk to your spirit, or Satan will speak to your spirit 24/7. There are only two kingdoms out there. When we agree with the voice of the enemy over and over, a stronghold is formed that we believe is true. For example, the enemy tells you that you committed a sin that God will not forgive, and you feel rejected by God. You begin to believe and live out what you believe. Proverbs 23:7 “7 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he."

A person with a broken heart loses sight and never comes to understand their identity in Christ. When we have a broken heart, we don’t believe the promises. You will have a hard time believing it. Why? Because your heart is like a bucket with holes in it. This ensures our brokenness continues because we become overcome by rejection, abandonment, fear, shame, guilt, etc. The nightmares usually progress, often bringing diseases with them because the person with a broken heart gets caught up on the performance wheel - performance, perfection, doing, trying, perfecting. You will strive to prove to the world and yourself that you have value or worth. Or just shut down and live in a silent, merciless hell of isolation, or a little of both.

The Lord became a curse for us. He gave us the tools to recognize, discern the voice, reject it, and cast out vain imaginations.

Remember what Paul taught us:

2 Corinthians 10 (KJV) For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds;):

Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

Focusing on God’s truth and denying Satan’s lies is therefore not simply a "reprogramming" of our minds, nor is it a failure to deal with the most profound sinful power of the flesh. It is, in fact, God’s way in which the underlying power of sin is overcome by the power and life of God.

Step 1: Acknowledging and appropriately expressing the hurt.

"He restores my soul..." Just what does restoration of our human spirit entail?
It includes mending or repairing our psyche and emotional stasis. Restoration allows our human spirit to soar -to function as God intends - and to contribute to attaining the incredible potential in God's Plan.

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First, know the Lord cares for every hurt you have ever had. The Lord wants to take your pain. Second, make a list from your earliest memories to the present of everyone who has ever hurt you physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally, events and places where you were injured, etc. Third, be honest with the Lord. You might be surprised by the feelings and emotions that surface as you write your list. It is very possible to have a broken heart for years - and yet fail to admit it and to deal with it because of emotional hurts because of age, and or way of self-protection, or going into denial! How did the Job respond to the horrendous tragedies that killed his seven sons and three daughters?

Job 1:20-22 "Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head, and he fell to the ground and worshipped. And he said: 'Naked I came from my 'mother's womb, and naked shall I return there. The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.' In all this Job did not sin nor charge God with wrong."

Step 2 - Deal with anger, resentment, bitterness, and hatred and release those emotions.

First, do not be afraid of your emotions or the pain you feel. Second, give yourself permission to feel the pain and give God permission to pull up the pain. Because when you start writing your list out, and you feel like crying over a situation, go ahead and cry and release the pain to the Lord. See yourself giving your pain over to the Lord and see yourself giving this person over the Lord and forgive them. Our emotions have a fantastic capacity for good - and for evil (or bad). Failing to deal with strong negative emotions can have devastating consequences. When we feel angry over someone or something, that indicates unforgiveness, bitterness, and/or broken heart.

Ephesians 4:26-27-"Be angry, and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil."

You might even feel anger, resentment, bitterness, or hatred over a person or situation as you make out your list. Be willing to forgive these people. Unresolved anger is like a spiritual cancer. It tends to grow and spill over into all of our relationships. It will separate you from others!

Many of our relationships - marital, family, work, etc. -- need emotional and spiritual healing. Unclear and unloving communication is the biggest problem in rela­tionships.

Proverbs 25:28 -- "Whoever has no rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down, without walls"

Ephesians 4:31-"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice." (These must be replaced with forgiveness and love for others). Bitterness becomes a spiritual poison. We must not allow its presence in our lives.
Acts 8:23 -- As Peter said to Simon the Sorcerer, "For I see that you are poisoned by bitterness and bound by iniquity."

Have you ever hated anyone? John says, “If you hate your brother, it is a spirit of murder.” That doesn’t mean you want to kill them, but you hate them, and that is a spirit of murder. They have the spirit of bitterness, bitterness being supported by unforgiveness, unforgiveness being supported by resentment (Matthew 20:21-24), resentment being supported by retaliation (Romans 12:17-19), and retribution being supported by anger and anger (James 1:18-21) being supported by hatred (Titus 3:3-5) and hatred being supported by violence (Gen 6:13) and violence being supported by murder (John 8:42-44, 1 John 3:15).

healing from a broken heart
Sometimes, we fail to relinquish — or release — the hurt, the pain, and the agony. "God can heal a broken heart, but He has to have all the pieces." That means whenever an event or person comes to mind that brings ill feelings, they release the hurt to the Lord.

Releasing the hurt and being at peace with ourselves Philippians 4:7 - "and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."

Step 3 - Forgiving Others, Yourself, and God, and what happens when you don’t!

Are we willing to forgive others, even if they have hurt you and don’t feel like it?
Remember, it is not an emotion to forgive or even an option. It is a requirement that we do, or else it separates a person from God, others, or ourselves and causes problems in the spiritual walk. We don’t have the right to carry the offense or take justice into our own hands, as it is not our job, “…vengeance belongs to the Lord…” (Psalms 94:1). Remember, forgiving does not always mean it is wise to re-establish or to continue a relationship. God does not expect you to stay in, to continue, or to reestablish an abusive relationship.

Unforgiveness and bitterness put a breach in your relational walk with the Lord, others, and yourself, and unforgiveness and bitterness cause sickness emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Any time there is a breach in love, sickness, disease, and demons have a right to come in and steal from you. That is why the enemy’s job is to “kill, steal and destroy you…” (John 10:10).

Your immune system is tied up in the bones. In fact, bitterness and unforgiveness are the root of most cancers, arthritis, and other diseases. "A wounded spirit, who can bear!" Out of the wound oozes the stench of self-pity, bitterness, and accusation. Many physicians are on record stating that over 50% of our illnesses have their origin in our minds and spirits. In other words, germs, physical malfunction, and unpreventable accidents do not cause half the trouble of guilt, nervous tension, emotional stress, and spiritual unrest. Our disturbing sense of guilt and deep-rooted fear play havoc with our health and well-being. That does not mean that all cancer comes from bitterness and unforgiveness. Cancer can be generational curses. Meaning your great-grandfather/grandmother, grandfather/grandmother, and even parents could have had cancer. It could have been from sin in the bloodline that brought the curse of iniquity.

The good news is that Jesus died on the cross and gave us keys through Him to break the generational curses. Also, a person who does not take care of themselves by not eating right, sleeping, and abusing their body can cause the body to become sick. The medical journal indicates that we all have the cancer virus in our bodies, but our bodies, when not working properly, cannot fight the virus.

Proverbs 12:25 “Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, But a good word makes it glad.”

Depression by life experiences in the heart.” Mental and emotional problems!

Proverbs 13:12 “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, But when the desire comes, it is a tree of life.” How do you get a broken heart, feel hopeless for a long period of time, be abused, neglected, conditionally loved, be misused, get into a hopeless situation. Spiritual trouble!

Proverbs 14:30 “A sound heart is life to the body, But envy is rottenness to the bones.” Physical sickness in the body!

Proverbs 17:22 “A merry heart does good, like medicine, But a broken spirit dries the bones. Physical sickness in the body!

Proverbs 18:14 “The spirit of a man will sustain him in sickness, But who can bear a broken spirit?” Physical sickness in the body when there is a broken heart. Envy and Jealousy.

Proverbs 15:30 “The light of the eyes rejoices the heart, And a good report makes the bones healthy.” A healed heart has a physically healthy body!

Proverbs 15:15 “All the days of the afflicted are evil, But he who is of a merry heart has a continual feast.” Mental torment.

Proverbs 16:23 “The heart of the wise teaches his mouth, And adds learning to his lips.” The person with a broken heart will be murmuring and miserable. They will be talking, lack of faith, doubt and fear.” Spiritual fear, doubt and unbelief.

Hebrews 12:15 “Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.”

Proverbs 25:28 “Whoever has no rule over his own spirit, Is like a city broken down, without walls.” Meaning anything can attack that city (your body) such as sicknesses. Meaning you don’t have rule over your heart. In Isaiah 61:4: “ And they shall rebuild the old ruins, They shall raise up the former desolations, And they shall repair the ruined cities, The desolations of many generations.“

Proverbs 15:13 - 13 A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit."

Proverbs 17:22 “22A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.” Your immune system is tied up in the bones.

Proverbs 25:28 “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls. In other words, anything can attack that city or another way your mind, body soul and spirit.

Forgiving Others:

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First, make up your mind to forgive those who hurt you. Second, whenever a person or time comes to mind with an ill feeling, submit it to the Lord by asking forgiveness until this thought or feeling stops coming. That is why the Lord said to forgive 70 x 7 (Matthew 18:21-22). 

The enemy will continue to bring it to mind. You can forgive and refuse to grab hold of it again. This might go on for weeks because the enemy is an accuser of the saints. So, a form of warfare is to continually submit it to the Lord and confess your unforgiveness or ill feelings of a particular person(s) or event to the Lord. This is also renewing the mind because you are taking every thought captive. The enemy likes to torment and throw thoughts, events, and people back at us that have hurt us.

Matthew 18:21-22 - "Then Peter came to Him and said, 'Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?' Jesus said to him, 'I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”

Bitterness and unforgiveness can be a generational stronghold. If your parents could not forgive easily, most likely, you cannot forgive easily and will need the generational stronghold broken.

Jesus then proceeded to give the Parable of the Unforgiving Servant. When the servant failed to have compassion on his fellow servant, Christ gave this severe warning.

Matthew 18:35 -" So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses."

What is the central point--the main lesson— of Christ's parable of the unforgiving servant? God requires of each of us that we forgive others their trespasses or offenses against us. Allow the Lord to deal with the person that hurt you. Otherwise, unforgiveness will be heavy on your heart and bring separation either from God, others or yourself. It allows the enemy the right to bring torment and also to bring sickness. He has the right because the door is open. You will lose out on your blessing.

Third, be willing to release and bless our enemies and pray for them with a right heart. That does not mean to ask God to expose them to others but to have a right heart. Love covers a multitude of sin (1 Peter 4:8)

Matthew 5:43-45-"You have heard that it was said, "You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy." But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven ..."

Separating the offense from the offender can be extremely difficult. Jesus Christ can help us to hate sin - but to love sinners (in the sense that we focus on their future potential when God teaches them His ways).

If you still have a hard time forgiving someone, try to see them that it is the sin in them and not them. What do I mean! Paul said in Romans 7:14-17 that he does those things because of the sin that is within him. “14 We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 6 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 7 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me.”

Fourth, see that repentance can be beautiful and positive. Our society has made forgiveness
a negative instead of a positive. Fifth, make it daily or whenever someone hurts you or comes to mind. That means taking every thought captive, as it was said earlier in Ephesians 4:23 -- "... be renewed in the spirit of your mind." Jesus quoted in Matthew 6:9-15 gave the outline in coming to him and how to keep our hearts cleansed and the door shut from the enemy.

Matthew 6:9-15 9 After this manner, pray ye: "Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. 10 Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. 11 Give us this day our daily bread. 12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. 13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, power, and the glory, forever. Amen. 14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive them.”

This outline is a way of life and a way of approaching the Father. If we examine our hearts daily and follow these principles and be honest with God, then expect a wonderful and marvelous relationship with God, and others. Unforgiveness is the glue that keeps the wounded heart oozing out with pain.

Forgive Yourself:

Forgiving yourself seems to be more difficult than to forgive others. The process for emotional healing is asking God to forgive you and to cleanse you. You might have done bad things in the past that you feel is unforgivable. The truth is no sin is too big for God to handle that he cannot forgive. Guilt, shame and blame are the primary emotions that accompany someone who has not forgiven themselves. Guilt is a form of self-judgment and self-condemnation that we often impose upon ourselves. It produces anxiety, inferiority, fear, and worry. There might be others and so ask the Lord what is blocking you to accept His forgiveness? The enemy is liar and an accuser and does not want you to let go of your guilt. Accusation is Satan’s greatest tactic to get us to give up on our relationship with God. He accuses us so that we will turn to self-condemnation.

You might have self hatred operating in your life where you cannot accept yourself or see that you are God’s perfect creation. Not accepting yourself is rejecting God’s creation and rejecting yourself or self-rejection. Satan wants you to not like yourself. Satan a liar and the father of all lies (John 8:44 "Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning and abode not in the truth because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar and the father of it.")

That is why we need to be able to discern the voices that play in our heads. God is love and will only speak in love and in conviction. Conviction is freeing. It shows us what we must change to step closer to our God. The enemy will accuse you, bring more pain, and bond you. Condemnation drives people to make excuses for their sins, keeping them bound and separated from a close relationship with God. This is why so many people rage against religion, rejecting warnings and clutching their sins ever closer.

Condemnation rejects the person, not the sin. Conviction rejects the sin, not the person. Romans 8:1 powerfully proclaims, "Therefore, there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus."
The prophet Micah describes God like this: "That is, Who is a God like you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay angry forever but delight in showing mercy. You will again have compassion on us; you will tread our sins underfoot and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea" (Micah 7:18,19, NIV). The Lord forgave you, so you need to forgive yourself. That is why we need to be able to discern the voices that play in our heads. God is love and will only speak in love and in conviction. The enemy will accuse you, bring more pain, and bond you.

Many people with broken hearts need deep healing and need to go to someone who knows how to administer spiritual healing in their lives.
Forgiving God:

It is just as important to forgive God as well as others. Why, because again in the 10 Commandments, Jesus said in Luke 10:27 “He answered: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'. If not, it will breach your spiritual life. The enemy will have you where he wants you to be.

The reason you are not able to forgive God is:
  • You didn’t have a godly father on earth. The Lord is your actual father who you will be spending eternity with

  • You don’t see that He has a plan and a purpose for your life and knows what is best for you because of the pain of the past and having a broken heart.
  • You blame God instead of the enemy that is out to kill, steal, and destroy YOU!
  • You believe the Lord is not for you!
  • What happens when we don’t deal with broken hearts/wounded spirits and/or refuse to forgive in all three areas (others, God, and you)? The enemy will have a right to access your life in six different areas such as mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially, and relationally.
  • Separation (others, god, and yourself) with the enemy trying to kill, steal, and destroy you and your relationship with others and God. You will not be able to draw near because of trust issues.
  • You will have a hard time trusting other people around you. Sometimes, I struggle with paranoia.
  • Evidence of more curses in our lives than blessings in either or all mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, relational, and financial problems.
  • Suffer from anxiety attacks (emotional, mental – a spirit of fear), problems, and sickness in your body because of what anxiety does to the immune system because you are not able to trust the Lord with your whole heart.
  • The enemy will cause destruction in your family through your children going into captivity because of unforgiveness, sins, and sins of iniquities from forefathers. Daniel 9 talks about the iniquities or sins of the forefathers that Daniel dealt with and confessed to the nation of Israel.
  • The enemy (spiritually) will rob you of experiencing joy or peace.
  • The enemy will bombard you with temptations to get you to sin, and you will have problems with addictions (drugs, sex, work, computers, pornography, etc.
  • Will not be able to have a victorious life and be depressed and even suffer from suicidal thoughts, especially when the storms of life come because he is out to kill, steal, and destroy you. You don’t feel justified or have faith or feel hopeless. You will not be able to glorify the Lord in your tribulation.
  • God cannot forgive you, and you are not under his protective covering. The enemy has access to your life – mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially, and relationally to keep you in pain, such as tormenting you with flashbacks and nightmares.
  • You will most likely be driven to please people, striving to prove to the world and yourself that you have value or worth because of low self-esteem, shame, a spirit of rejection, abandonment, etc. You will believe the lies of the enemy because you don’t know who you are in Christ, and you are listening to the wrong kingdom (spirit of accusation – you are not listening to the voice of love but of hate). You will have strongholds of the mind.
  • You will be plagued by different types of diseases.
  • You will fight to keep from financial ruin.

Step 4 - Letting go of the past and reaching forward toward the future and the next time someone hurts you.

Philippians 3:13-15-"Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Therefore, let us, as many as are mature, have this mind."

The memory of the event or person might still be there but the sting can be removed after forgiveness and/or God or someone that can pull the pain up and out removes the pain. The Lord is the restorer of all things. He can take all things and turn them for good. For example, an area you were tormented by the enemy with and you got the victory. You now have a testimony to share and encourage others of your victory in Him. You can praise the Lord for what He has done! Then the enemy has no power over you in this area to torment you with.

Just remember to "Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard (your heart), for out of it flows the springs of life." (Proverbs 4:23)

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How to Keep a Healed and Cleansed Heart and the Enemy Out and Walking in Health – the 8R’s to Stay Restored!

Recognize – every thought that comes to you comes from some kingdom. Is it accusation, guilt, shame, rejection, etc. or is it love. 2 Corinthians 10:4-6 “4For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, 6and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.” We react to every thought that comes into our minds. It changes the chemicals in our mind. We need to learn renewed in my minds and freed from strongholds.

Responsibility – regardless how much abuse you have had you are still responsible for your sin. If someone hurts you, it is your responsibility to forgive him or her. Psalms 51:2-4 “2Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, And cleanse me from my sin. 3For I acknowledge my transgressions, And my sin is always before me. 4Against You, You only, have I sinned, And done this evil in Your sight-- That You may be found just when You speak, And blameless when You judge.

Repent – I recognize sin and taken responsibility for it and I’m choosing to turn from it. I let it go. 1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

Renounce – (he was renouncing it very clearly) – Paul did not want to sin. Romans 7:14-25 “15 For what I am doing, I do not understand. What I will do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do. 16If, then, I do what I will not do, I agree with the law that it is good. 17 But now, I no longer do it, but sin dwells in me. 18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. 19 For the good that I will do, I do not do; but the evil I will not do, that I practice. 20 Now if I do what I will not do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 21 I find then a law, that evil is present with me, the one who wills to do good. 22 For I delight in the law of God according to the inward man. 23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin in my members. 24 O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? 25 I thank God--through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, with the mind, I serve the law of God, but with the flesh, the law of sin.

Remove It – remove the temptation or sin, such as rejection, etc. Mathew 4:1-5 “1 Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. 2 And when He had fasted forty days and forty nights, he was hungry. 3 Now when the tempter came to Him, he said, "If You are the Son of God, command that these stones become bread." 4 But He answered and said, "It is written, "Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God." 5 Then the devil took Him up into the holy city and set Him on the pinnacle of the temple, 7Jesus said to him, "It is written again, "You shall not tempt the LORD your God." 8Again, the devil took Him up on an exceedingly high mountain, and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and their glory. 9 And he said to Him, "All these things I will give You if You will fall down and worship me." 10 Then Jesus said to him, "Away with you, Satan! It is written, "You shall worship the LORD your God, and Him only you shall serve."

Resist - Accusation will try to come back, so resist it. That is why we need to discern good and evil. The Devil gives afflictions. I Peter 5:6-9 “6 Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, 7casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. 8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. 9Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.”

Rejoice – thanksgiving is thanking God for what he has done. Praise is a warfare tool. Even if it is not done yet praise him for the healing that is coming.

Restore – We need to get involved and become proactive. If that means sharing your testimony to others to give hope, teaching them, and delivering them.

How do you walk in victory in the Light of Christ after your heart is healed?

Keep your house filled with the Word of God and praise and worship; strengthen your relationship with the Godhead. Ephesians 5:26 “That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word.

Fellowship with other Christians. You may have to reevaluate some of your old relationships. Establish fellowship with positive, like-minded people in your area. Acts 2:42 “And they continued steadfastly in the apostles’ doctrine and fellowship, the breaking of bread, and prayer.

Hold every thought captive. Discern good from evil. Separate lies (even from a loved one) from God’s truth. Replace the lies of the enemy with the word of God. The battle starts in your mind. Read 2 Corinthians 10:4-6.]

Dwell on godly thoughts and promises – Reflect on things with virtue, praise, and thanksgiving. Think about the positive things. Read Philippians 4:8

Quit thinking about the past. Let go of the past failures and traumas. Self-pity is the superglue of hell that ties you to the past. Keep your mind on God. When a thought comes to mind from the past, pull the vain imagination down by not meditating on the past issue in view in the mind. Train your mind to get off the failures and traumas and redirect your mind to the good things of the Lord. Philippians 3:13 “This one thing that I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things that are before.

Guard your heart. Guard against doubt, unbelief, discouragement, and despair. Have patience. God’s timing and ways are perfect. Proverbs 4:23 “keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

Have faith in God. Without faith, it is impossible to please him. Believe in God’s word, no matter what we see in natural circumstances. 2 Corinthians 5:7 “For we walk by faith, not by sight.”
Watch your mouth! Your words today will create your life tomorrow. If it’s not godly, don’t say it. The tongue determines life or death. Read James 3:6,8.

Guard your eyes and ears. Your eyes are the windows of your soul. Be careful of what you see and hear. Be selective of movies, television programs, and books. Be very discerning about what kind of music and radio programs you listen to. Read Isaiah 33:15-16.

Separate people from their sin. Observe their actions without judging them. Matthew 7:1 “Judge not, that ye be not judged.

Indecision leads to ungodliness. Choose God in everything. Decide to be in peace. James 1:8 “A doubled-minded man is unstable in all his ways.

Be willing to go into the fire (see Daniel 3). The battle is in the fire. Stop making an idol of illness or programmed behavior. Face your fears and stressors to overcome them.

Remember that all good things come from God. James 1:17 “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.

Our Thoughts Affect the Brain

We are conceived with specific needs. What are they?
To be:  

You have around 100 trillion of them in your brain, and each can grow.
70,000 branches!! Neurons These are highly complex neuronal structures involved in the process of continually receiving and integrating information coming into the senses. The information is translated into electrical impulses and transported across

As you think and start developing a thought by building memory, the thought activates a part of your brain. The
your thought life.
This dynamic pumping
A thought is shown actually to cause structural changes in
a cell’s makeup on the outside and even deep down to the

by Traci Morin
Touch of God International Ministries of Healing and Deliverance and Anxiety Coach - Anxious2Victorious Women